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Yep, that's it.
a little off topic, but it made me think of this song
I love the emotional transition the singer makes from a position of weakness to one of strength at the end
Yep, that's it.
Great read, we often tend to work harder to solve our problems, some of the challenges farmers face will never be solved by hard graft - being reactive is utterly exhausting, and our natural reaction is reaction!Visiting daughter and family in New Zealand over Christmas and January she bought me a book called the resilient farmer by Doug Avery a very interesting book about depression i never reliased how it affects so many people and there family's stay safe everyone out there
I think we all have our down days weather livestock machinery financial problems some we can change some we can't !sometimes it helps to get away relax and think with a clear head after I read that book ' makes any problems i have had seem very small and nothing compared to a lot of people on this threadGreat read, we often tend to work harder to solve our problems, some of the challenges farmers face will never be solved by hard graft - being reactive is utterly exhausting, and our natural reaction is reaction!
Or, we let our guard down and play games with ourselves.
I was fairly downbeat last summer (not depressed, just frustrated) and went for a special trip to town to buy it as a pick-me-up - it felt good to have someone else "in the same boat" and I set changes in place, within hours, that have had massive effects.
I messaged Doug, we had a great chat on the phone, he's a fantastic guy in that way.
He was fairly well used to it, I'd expect, but he said he was happy that his book had helped so many, we just have to look out for each other.
Perhaps it is only good or bad because I see it so. It is what it is and I can then let it go. The Jews, they call it Kabballah or Reception but perhaps acceptance is a better word. Easier said than done, I know!
mmm just for the record how does one go about self medicating with..sex.& self medication with alcohol, sex, work etc. I have held the shotgun in my hand. I have worked out many suicide scenarios, depending if I want it to look like an accident, if I want to send a message, or if I don't want my body to ever be found. I have wallowed in the very pit of despair & I have also learnt how to be self aware, recognise my mental condition & ( generally ) manage it reasonably well & drag myself up again. Even though I am relatively stable now, I still think about suicide at least a few times a month. When I am in a low spot, it is daily & constant . . . Death itself has no fear to me, it is the way we die ( or the way we live ? ) that holds greater fear or misery. From a suicide point of view, my biggest fear is the effect it may have on ones left behind ( that is the ONLY reason I never pulled the trigger. I have regretted that decision at times to . . . ). Anyway, I am comfortable enough with death & have seen enough of it to know that it will be MY choice ( barring a car accident or something ) when I go, wearing boots & while still reasonably fit & active - no slippers or nursing homes for me. That is not depression or suicidal tendencies talking, just my "end of life plan"
anyway - back to "she let go"
no, that moment in time she creates for herself IS going to be disrupted at some point, all the sh!t from life will still be there & its not about pretending everything is wonderful & perfect.
it is telling us to make the time to just stop. Stop thinking. Stop worrying. Stop working. Just let go. Even if for a moment, to give yourself a break
just like mindfulness, meditation, yoga, exercise, running - whatever, just take the time every now & then to actually, relax, enjoy something, focus on positives or just clear the mind of everything
In many ways, that is what we are trying to do when we self medicate with drugs, alcohol, sex, over working or whatever,
haha - asking for a friend
I suppose I meant in a similar way you would use drugs or alcohol. As a distraction, short term instant gratification, combined with unsafe or excessive or inappropriate use ? Nothing wrong with having a beer with some mates, but you have issues if you start drinking as soon as you wake up. Nothing wrong with good healthy fun consenting sex ( either within a relationship or casual ), but excessive promiscuity, lots of meaningless casual sex , bad relationships, not taking into account the other persons feelings / emotions, using it as a "commodity", even excessive / repeated masturbation for that climax ?? . . . im not sure Im explaining my self very well . . .
I suppose in a similar way you get "celebrities" claiming they are "sex addicts" and as such aren't really responsible for their actions or behaviour - its an "addiction" ? I suppose we all have our own ideas or boundaries as to what constitutes acceptable sexual behaviour & what is negative or destructive . . .
I hope you appreciate how open I have been with you here
drug was paroxetine. Of the below list of side effects, increased anxiety & delayed orgasm were the only ones I noticed. If anything, sex drive increased, but maybe that was because I was being self destructive or looking for distraction ? I don't know ? Feeling a little embarrassed Ive mentioned all this now . . .
all good - Im an open book
Common side effects may include:
Common Side Effects of Paxil (Paroxetine Hydrochloride) Drug Center ...
- vision changes;
- weakness, drowsiness, dizziness;
- sweating, anxiety, shaking;
- sleep problems (insomnia);
- loss of appetite, constipation;
- dry mouth, yawning; or.
- decreased sex drive, impotence, or difficulty having an orgasm.
https://www.rxlist.com/paxil-side-effects-drug-center.htm
Hmmmm, as a man (person) thinketh then so is he/she.
But also remember that diet can distort our thinking. Alcohol, caffeine, recreational drugs, and even wheat and gluten can distort our perception and thinking. They tell us that Adam and Eve had their eyes opened to good and evil after eating the forbidden fruit and their son Cain, who was probably on the same diet, became paranoid and killed his brother, Able. Some Jews actually believe that wheat was the forbidden fruit.
Perhaps stretching the point somewhat but after partaking of the bread and wine at the last supper Judas took offence at being asked if he hadn't something to do and went and betrayed his master; after which he descended into despair.
I never said it was easy . . .
there is no miracle cure, silver bullet or happily ever after . . .
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