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when l was at war with mother and sisters, my accountant gave me a picture, chap pulling a cow along, on a halter, wife pulling the other way, on its tail, and a solicitor, each side, milking it. That picture was so so true.
That's why I think the mother is the key to the solution, she has the easiest clearest entitlement in law, and that could be used as a wedge, to force a solution, or not. Either way, you know where you stand.when l was at war with mother and sisters, my accountant gave me a picture, chap pulling a cow along, on a halter, wife pulling the other way, on its tail, and a solicitor, each side, milking it. That picture was so so true.
He was put into the partnership at a younger age than us, and he had my mum move in when he was 21. He hasn't really done any of the paperwork as my Mum's done it all. He had 4 kids by my age.
He threatened us that if we want to get married the farms getting sold
Mother may be the key, but there is no certainty she will outlive your father.That's why I think the mother is the key to the solution, she has the easiest clearest entitlement in law, and that could be used as a wedge, to force a solution, or not. Either way, you know where you stand.
Very sorry to hear that.Mother may be the key, but there is no certainty she will outlive your father.
My wife died completely unexpectedly after a short illness ( PM said ovarian cancer) at the age of just 51.
What a shock that must be.Mother may be the key, but there is no certainty she will outlive your father.
My wife died completely unexpectedly after a short illness ( PM said ovarian cancer) at the age of just 51.
You're right. My mum died first, the will then opened a hole can of worms, which she, thank god didn't have to cope with, but the way the will was written signalled my step fathers intentions, he was expected to die first, which caused upset, and then when he died the family farm, with all sorts of problems, was sold with much acrimony.Mother may be the key, but there is no certainty she will outlive your father.
My wife died completely unexpectedly after a short illness ( PM said ovarian cancer) at the age of just 51.
We're basically doing everything now, but he has control over us all. He thinks we will sell up when he drops down dead so he wants it all for himself now. We do live here "free of charge" but obviously pay our way in work. I have a sister that has lived here free of charge forever and shes 32 !!! She doesnt do anything to help.What's his reason behind that? Does he think you're not capable of running it without him?
Why does he not want the same opportunity for his kids that he had?
He sounds like he has serious control issues.
Does he really want to be the one to deliberately end the family dynasty and sell the family farm that he inherited? Has he no pride in setting his sons up to farm, and providing them with the same opportunities that his parents afforded him?
If he won't make you partners, then he needs to pay you properly as a member of staff.
I assume you live at home foc?
Time for some tough decisions.
We're basically doing everything now, but he has control over us all. He thinks we will sell up when he drops down dead so he wants it all for himself now. We do live here "free of charge" but obviously pay our way in work. I have a sister that has lived here free of charge forever and shes 32 !!! She doesnt do anything to help.
You are going to need to sort this out one way or another. Your won’t be the only one in this situation so don’t feel like your alone. It’s all ready been said but speak to your brother and agree on a united front and be prepared to walk away there’s plenty of jobs out there.We're basically doing everything now, but he has control over us all. He thinks we will sell up when he drops down dead so he wants it all for himself now. We do live here "free of charge" but obviously pay our way in work. I have a sister that has lived here free of charge forever and shes 32 !!! She doesnt do anything to help.
You are going to need to sort this out one way or another. Your won’t be the only one in this situation so don’t feel like your alone. It’s all ready been said but speak to your brother and agree on a united front and be prepared to walk away there’s plenty of jobs out there.
how are you managing to still work with him?Today's update, he's getting a solicitor against me, my brother and mother yet he will have his tea put Infront of him later
Barely ever talk to him, mostly work apart anyway and we've put up with the same kind of bulls**t for so long were used to it.how are you managing to still work with him?
Today's update, he's getting a solicitor against me, my brother and mother yet he will have his tea put Infront of him later
It really is crazy, nobody knows what we have to put up with. He never thinks to put himself in me or my brother's shoes (wellies) as to how we are going to cope on our own in the future, it scares me to be honestWTF? Seriously? That is ludicrous....I thought I was the only one dealing with those levels of lunacy and we never got that far.
Without wishing to be rude to your old man that behaviour is disgusting, selfish, deluded, infantile and ignorant.
Those who carry on like this tend to be the "look at me, I'm so clever" brigade, but deep down they must be acting out of insecurity and MUST know what the rest of us in the real world think.
Good luck!
I had to deal with very similar situation and 50 quid a week was my amount too although ten years agoIt really is crazy, nobody knows what we have to put up with. He never thinks to put himself in me or my brother's shoes (wellies) as to how we are going to cope on our own in the future, it scares me to be honest