Chae1
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- Aberdeenshire
Just choose, it is your life and you control it
I think the main problem with relaxation is that we don't choose it, eg we are obliged to or feel like we should be, but don't actually "choose to relax" or "choose to leave it for tomorrow" and then it eats us
sometimes it's the story, too, "Daddy always started early and came home late" but Daddy isn't living our life
My dad does more hours than me.
He doesn't have anyone at home since mum passed away. Just seems to want to work when he's still able to. A couple of his close friends have passed away with cancer and some getting treatment just now.
I appreciate the amount of work he does and will miss him when he's not around. But I do feel guilty when we go up with kids and he's just getting in.
I think the inability to not switch off is linked to mental health problems in agriculture. Your mind needs time to reset and shutdown.
I've had a couple near death experiences and when you come back to it after with a fresh mindset, you do actually wonder what the point of all the stress and panic is. Unfortunately it seems to come back again.