- Location
- Penzance
Tomorrow very well may be better, it's very good to keep looking forwards. Very often we just stay in the past or present and can't look forwards. We are all here for you if you'd like to discuss it
Dealing with depression - suicidal thoughts - Join the conversation (including helpline details)
- Thread starter Andyrob
- Start date
Lili
Member
- Location
- Aberystwyth hinterland
Do you feel there is anything to look forward to?
Do you have any enthusiasm for anything?
As said it's hope that tomorrow will be better that keeps us going
If you think there's a problem don't hesitate to ask for help
Do you have any enthusiasm for anything?
As said it's hope that tomorrow will be better that keeps us going
If you think there's a problem don't hesitate to ask for help
- Location
- Limousin/Charentes toad land
Hope is certainly a key part of our happiness and sense of purpose, having a reason to go on.
The above quote is from one of my favourite films.
Christoph1945
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- Location
- Widnes West Cheshire
First comes understanding, and then forgiveness!
From Mrs Wilson
From Mrs Wilson
- Location
- Glen Clova, Angus, DD8 4RD
Agreed.
It need not be for long. Just tell her that you may have your differences but you still love her (assuming you do? don't lie if not). You may regret the lost opportunity otherwise.
- Location
- Penzance
It's not her that is the problem really, it's my grandfather. I'll definitely bear in mind what you guys have said. I love my grandmother very much and not seeing her has been horrible, but it was either see them both or not at all so I chose not at all. Dad said if I don't want to that's fine as she may not know what's going on really anyway and too many visitors isn't the best TBH. If I wanna see her but not go there I can get her and the family on video call, so that's an option
thank you for the support tho guys. I hope everyone else is doing well and please carry on contributing peeps
- Location
- Penzance
@Stevethemeat how is everything?
Christoph1945
Member
- Location
- Widnes West Cheshire
Even if your grandmother appears to be unconscious and none communicative just hold her hand say who you are and tell her how much you love her and thank her for all her kindness and understanding over the years. Even mention some of those loving occasions that you both shared. It is my guess, that being her grand daughter, staff may allow you in outside of visiting times.
Upon passing over, our hearing is one of the last things to go!
Don't worry about finding the right words, they will be given to you at the right time.
Take care
Chris
Upon passing over, our hearing is one of the last things to go!
Don't worry about finding the right words, they will be given to you at the right time.
Take care
Chris
Loner
Member
- Location
- South Manchester
I initially posted on here with details about my depression,and because I posted a post to make people aware about hacking accounts I was jumped on by a lot of people who use this site,and even by a certain owner /moderator who made some bad comments for whatever reason.
I was surprised to find so many depressing people who just follow the leader and jump on someone and also make bad remarks . Maybe they should read some of the comments on here and show a bit more respect to people who post replies and information that may or may not be of use to them and refrain from insulting those who make the effort in trying to support others on here.
I was surprised to find so many depressing people who just follow the leader and jump on someone and also make bad remarks . Maybe they should read some of the comments on here and show a bit more respect to people who post replies and information that may or may not be of use to them and refrain from insulting those who make the effort in trying to support others on here.
Christoph1945
Member
- Location
- Widnes West Cheshire
Hi Loner, welcome aboard. I must have missed your post describing your depression on here and can't presently find it in this thread; what date did you post it and in which thread?
Deutzdx3
Member
Strange, I just logged on and this thread came up. Today has been one of my worse days. I’ve had to seek counselling. I’ve hit a wall. No drive, no self esteem or worth. 1st of Feb will be 4 years since my wife died. I know others are in worse place than I am and I should be thankful for what I have. If only it were that easy. Not suicidal but can see that on the horizon if I don’t deal with it. Current girl friend finds all this hard to deal with. That adds pressure to every thing.
Lili
Member
- Location
- Aberystwyth hinterland
The pain and grief of bereavement never go away and can sometimes be overwhelming. Anniversaries are particularly vulnerable times and coping with them can seem impossible. You've recognised you need help and done something about it. Best wishes
- Location
- North Norfolk
I'm right behind you - right there. Tragedy hits us, we stumble, and instead of our world being there for us, perhaps as we were once for them - they can't cope either. We need to bear in mind though that it isn't the fault of others - their coping mechanism is no better than ours.
I suspect that with assistance, you will be one for a self-help programme. You've managed to stand outside and look in - you now see your life for how it is and these are the vital first two steps. The next step is seeking help …….. though quite how though, I'm not too sure! Do you get on well with your GP? Could they perhaps refer you to a councillor of some sort?
You've taken the first and vital steps - now you're ready for the next, I'm certain. Keep posting.
Deutzdx3
Member
I emailed insight health care who I had emdr therapy through 18 months ago. Then the councillor said I would need more but when was hard to say. I think now it that time. I have found my self becoming quite mean to my now partner who is the most wonderful person, also going through a messy divorce. My behaviour put a massive strain on an already strained relationship. Counselling will help for sure, I just hope it’s not to late for my relationship to recover. She has he to put up its a lot.
Greenbeast
Member
- Location
- East Sussex
Can you be frank with her and tell her that?
Don't be afraid to say you hope it's not to late and you are going to seek help for yourself.
In a less serious manner i have opened up to my OH, when i started my reading and enlightenment journey last spring/summer, i would say to her "i know i haven't been the greatest and sometimes i am quick to anger but i am actively working on it"
Deutzdx3
Member
She is only to aware that I haven’t been great to her. We have been together a fair while now and it’s been hard on us as a couple, she takes the brunt of my moods. We got together 6-9 moths after my wife passed away, I was ok to start with, as I look back I was in shock/denial about Harriet passing away, i started to go downhill bit by bit and wasn’t good to her. At the same time she had split from her ex. Many occasion we have come close to separating. Yet she has stood by me. I’m not the easiest of people to deal with. She is still going through what is a very messy divorce. Things are tough all round.
- Location
- Cornwall
Wrote a long reply, deleted it! Short and sweet version:
Your both dealing with personal battles you may not want to burden your partner with, but by not talking you may unwittingly be putting more pressure on your relationship. I guess you are both (understandably!) visiting dark places mentally, keep everything in the open, make sure she knows how you are coping, and visa versa
Deutzdx3
Member
She is bit of a bottler unfortunately. Where as I like to talk about things. Get them Out there. Good or bad. Having self esteem issues and not feeling any worth definitely puts a lot of extra pressure on a stressful situation. I’m grateful for what I do have a just hope I don’t loose it.
- Location
- Cornwall
Sounds like you've had a rough time to put it mildly. Wish I could offer you something more helpful but i hope it all goes well for you, remember there are lots of people here for you if you need them anytime