primmiemoo
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I suspect that grieving may be easier (easier? more easily achieved) when a loved one leaves us suddenly, it's the understandable shock and the 'if-onlys'. When we're aware or we have notice, then we start to grieve at the outset of the news and whilst the loved one is with us - - whether this is a good thing, or not, I'm not sure.
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May I very gently beg to differ, please?, because it isn't as easy as that. Wish very much that it were, and I understand why people like to reason that way, but it isn't.
Even though I "knew" that my Dad's days were numbered (terminal illness means just that) I didn't expect him to die when he did. It was as great a shock as any other death of a loved one without notice has been since.
Mum was hit even more, as might be imagined. She never fully recovered from it.
It won't be long before I'm half a decade older than he was when he died, which is something that's hard to describe in words.