Dealing with depression - suicidal thoughts - Join the conversation (including helpline details)

[Friesianfan]

My thoughts are with you. Lost my mum 5 yrs ago. Her wish was to be looked after at home by her family which we did brilliantly until just before the end when proper pain relief was required. It was hardest thing We’ve done as a family But I’m so glad we did. Spend as much time with her as possible make memories,talk of things past. Put any issues to bed and tell her you love her. That’s all she’ll really want.
Go well
Chris.

We had a good day today. We took mum down to the harbour where she sat in the sun complete with blankets, pillows and cushions for a few hours with all her family and many local friends. Some from her school days. So worth the effort

 

[lazy farmer]

We had a good day today. We took mum down to the harbour where she sat in the sun complete with blankets, pillows and cushions for a few hours with all her family and many local friends. Some from her school days. So worth the effort

We had a beautiful Sunday dinner on mums last weekend. Lots of stories lots of photos. A lovely memory that is as clear as day five years on
Go well. Sounds like your doing a class job.
Chris

 

[glasshouse]

Ta

Have you any advice on panic attacks or extreme anxiety where your stomack goes into jelly and you start pumping sweat by the gallon

tablets called Be calm

 

[Friesianfan]

Mum’s gone from us now. I’m going to miss her terribly

 

[Jameshenry]

Mum’s gone from us now. I’m going to miss her terribly

Sorry to hear that news, thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time,

 

[Holsteinfriesian90]

Mum’s gone from us now. I’m going to miss her terribly

Thinking of you all.

 

[czechmate]

Mum’s gone from us now. I’m going to miss her terribly

Sorry to hear that

 

[Christoph1945]

I am so sorry to hear of your mum's passing; how was it for her?

When you have a little time to your self, try to remember one of the warmest moments you had with your mum and as you engross your self in the moment gently squeeze you right earlobe. Then, whenever you may be feeling a little low just squeeze your earlobe and the moment will come flooding back into your consciousness. Sounds a bit silly, I know, but it does work!

Chris

 

[waterbuffalofarmer]

I am really sorry to hear about that thinking of you all at this difficult time

 

[DrWazzock]

Mum’s gone from us now. I’m going to miss her terribly

Sorry to hear that. It's not easy.
They live on within us, in the way they shaped us and how we remember them and in how we go forward.
They will never die in that respect.

 

[DrWazzock]

Have you any advice on panic attacks or extreme anxiety where your stomack goes into jelly and you start pumping sweat by the gallon

What triggers these attacks? I used to have them in social situations and still do some extent. A group of people or somebody coming into my personal space would trigger the shakes and spasms for no logical reason. Still does sometimes if I'm not prepared. A tricky one, but you are not alone. I put it down to a long term build of stress internally, that bursts out, and genetic susceptibility.

 

[fiat 9090]

Mine only comes when the anxiety is bad ,today I could stand up in a crowd and give a lecture

 

[DrWazzock]

Mine only comes when the anxiety is bad ,today I could stand up in a crowd and give a lecture

I'm generally OK when there aren't things to worry about in the background. But if I have underlying worries then I have panic attacks in social situations. Underlying worries would be financial, crop loss at harvest, weather, sick animals that kind of thing and sometimes lack of sleep. Also relationship problems and transfer of wife's worries to myself tend to stoke underlying anxiety which can come out as physical symptoms.

Other than that I'm fine. Its got less of a problem as I've got older and have adopted the attitude that people can think what they like on many levels and I don't really give one any more.

 

[Christoph1945]

As we slide deeper into the night, please spare a thought and a prayer for the family of the landlord of the Hammer & Pincers (our local), who was stabbed to death earlier today.

 

[Paul E]

Mum’s gone from us now. I’m going to miss her terribly

So sorry to hear that.
Dad left us very quickly, so we never got chance to talk about stuff, or reminisce, or even ask what he wanted for his funeral.
I think we gave him a good send off though.
Still miss him, and it's surprising how long buried memories still pop up, and the things they used to do that infuriated you at the time, you miss. It doesn't go away, or get better, but it does get less bad.

 

[applejack]

Mum’s gone from us now. I’m going to miss her terribly

So sorry to hear about your Mum, my thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.

 

[fiat 9090]

I'm generally OK when there aren't things to worry about in the background. But if I have underlying worries then I have panic attacks in social situations. Underlying worries would be financial, crop loss at harvest, weather, sick animals that kind of thing and sometimes lack of sleep. Also relationship problems and transfer of wife's worries to myself tend to stoke underlying anxiety which can come out as physical symptoms.

Other than that I'm fine. Its got less of a problem as I've got older and have adopted the attitude that people can think what they like on many levels and I don't really give one any more.

hi how are you ,I like reading your posts hope the farming is going well for u

 

[Christoph1945]

Went down like sack of spuds and struck the earth, before knowing what had happened!

Last Sunday, having observed how the hot wet weather had driven the gardens on a pace, I decided to bring them under full control and smarten them up a bit. I filled bag after bag with weeds, grass cuttings, and prunings.

Functioning almost on auto-pilot I allowed my mind to wonder onto a matter not at hand and in doing so totally forgot two broken pieces of paving that I had moved and stood on end, slightly off to one side of the path. Secateurs in hand, I marched up the path intent on attacking one more invader …..when...……….the whole world cam to a halt and I found my self face down on the ground and wondering what the hell had happened.

Nothing broken, fortunately, but a whole load of bruises, aches, and pains to contend with. Quite an object lesson in keeping one's mind on the job at hand; not an easy thing to do if one is anxious, worried, or depressed.

Chris

 

[Jameshenry]

Went down like sack of spuds and struck the earth, before knowing what had happened!

Last Sunday, having observed how the hot wet weather had driven the gardens on a pace, I decided to bring them under full control and smarten them up a bit. I filled bag after bag with weeds, grass cuttings, and prunings.

Functioning almost on auto-pilot I allowed my mind to wonder onto a matter not at hand and in doing so totally forgot two broken pieces of paving that I had moved and stood on end, slightly off to one side of the path. Secateurs in hand, I marched up the path intent on attacking one more invader …..when...……….the whole world cam to a halt and I found my self face down on the ground and wondering what the hell had happened.

Nothing broken, fortunately, but a whole load of bruises, aches, and pains to contend with. Quite an object lesson in keeping one's mind on the job at hand; not an easy thing to do if one is anxious, worried, or depressed.

Chris

Hope you're on the mend @Christoph1945

 

[Gong Farmer]

For heavens' sake Chris, look after yourself. You're needed on here!