Dealing with depression - suicidal thoughts - Join the conversation (including helpline details)

[Crofter64]

I am not 100% sure but given my background I think being a rural GP would be right up my street- knowledge of rural life/people due to my agronomy background.

Great choice and sorely needed. My brother in law was a rural GP for 45 years till he died . The community gratitude and kindness received by the family is evidence of the important role he played . He had 1500 patients and knew many of them since birth. Most of my neighbours were his patients although I never knew it.

 

[Christoph1945]

I remember seeing some of the old western movies where the local doc occasionally got paid in farm goods.

 

[DrWazzock]

I remember watching "The High Chaparral", TV series. During one episode somebody fell ill and needed an urgent operation. The doc was called but didn't have the necessary surgical instruments to perform the op so one of the ranchers went to the forge and made him a set. They worked perfectly of course, and the patient made made a full recovery, despite having some pretty major surgery using rusty old tools in a cattle shed, no doubt with a slosh of firewater used as both anaesthetic and disinfectant.

 

[Bury the Trash]

A 'Dr Ollie' would sound ok ... but I'm really not sure I would be too happy with an appointment with a 'Doctor Wazzock'

 

[waterbuffalofarmer]

OK, so it appears all I needed to do was to force myself into motivation. I took a break from an addiction I have, currently going through cold turkey, and did something with my life. Farming is going better, I have rekindled my love of cooking and housework again. So many interests have come back now that I didn't have time for anymore. I made these, this week.

Also been spending more time with my dogs too and my sheep that will be lambing shortly. My younger brother and I do all the work together as a team now, which helps so much!! Thanks for the support guys, as always it really helped I hope everyone else is doing better these days 

 

[Greenbeast]

I listened to a podcast interview with Sam Harris this week and this sentiment struck me as something that would fit in this thread:

"When you're looking forward to something, to the weekend or whatever, you have to recognise you are deferring your happiness to some future point, which you already know will never truly arrive"

 

[ollie989898]

I wish you well in that endeavour. My wife and I have had a fair few medical issues over the last year or two and have noticed one big problem in the system. There is a lack of proffesionals' willing to say it like it is or, at the very least, admit they just don't know the answer. You don't suffer from that problem........ in a good way!

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[Turkish_FR]

I listened to a podcast interview with Sam Harris this week and this sentiment struck me as something that would fit in this thread:

"When you're looking forward to something, to the weekend or whatever, you have to recognise you are deferring your happiness to some future point, which you already know will never truly arrive"

Erm...but our hopes also make us happy. Maybe there is a delicate balance between being thankful for what we have "now" and being hungry for what we would like to have in the "future".

 

[ollie989898]

OK, so it appears all I needed to do was to force myself into motivation. I took a break from an addiction I have, currently going through cold turkey, and did something with my life. Farming is going better, I have rekindled my love of cooking and housework again. So many interests have come back now that I didn't have time for anymore. I made these, this week. View attachment 854515View attachment 854516View attachment 854517
Also been spending more time with my dogs too and my sheep that will be lambing shortly. My younger brother and I do all the work together as a team now, which helps so much!! Thanks for the support guys, as always it really helped I hope everyone else is doing better these days 

Now all that looks delicious.

 

[Gong Farmer]

You can fix anything with cake.

 

[devonshirekiwi]

I might, tbh it's something I have been mulling over for a while. If we had a better farm with better facilities than we have then sure, it would feel better. We'll see what summer brings anyway I guess. Parents always say we have to work we with what we have, which I guess is true, but it's so frustrating. I'm thinking at some point I may just move abroad and farm elsewhere or even just do another job entirely. But there's this innate fear of disappointing people, in my head, ik my parents would be really disappointed in me if I didn't take over the farm or the business, but if its not what I want then I shouldn't be doing it. You have to want something to truly give it your all.

I was in a similar rut, not wanting to let people down and disappointing my parents. It was when I got married that it finally dawned on me that I needed to man up and make some changes. It has not always been easy with family, but as time goes by it improves. There is so much pressure put on farming families to follow in the footsteps of previous generations. The hardest thing to do is change but nothing worthwhile is easy. Good luck, make it happen.

 

[Christoph1945]

OK, so it appears all I needed to do was to force myself into motivation. I took a break from an addiction I have, currently going through cold turkey, and did something with my life. Farming is going better, I have rekindled my love of cooking and housework again. So many interests have come back now that I didn't have time for anymore. I made these, this week. View attachment 854515View attachment 854516View attachment 854517
Also been spending more time with my dogs too and my sheep that will be lambing shortly. My younger brother and I do all the work together as a team now, which helps so much!! Thanks for the support guys, as always it really helped I hope everyone else is doing better these days 

Oh my!

 

[czechmate]

You can fix anything with cake.

And a cup of tea.

 

[Christoph1945]

The bakery on Station Road in Talacre does some nice cake but haven't anything as tempting as those posted in here.

 

[DrWazzock]

Chronic social isolation or loniless was a feature of my life until I got married 12 years ago. It has taken me years to learn even basic social skills and I still find interaction and small talk very difficult. It runs in the family but really didn't help with happiness. While I got the best academic results in my year at school I would have swapped that for more general acceptance in social groups. Anyway I used to divert my efforts into work really. Only now am I learning to step back from all things purely functional and begin to appreciate anything artistic and cultural. I feel like I have wasted years really. Not sure I will ever "get" sociability, but have kind of learned it through experience. It's a funny old life.

 

[devonshirekiwi]

Chronic social isolation or loniless was a feature of my life until I got married 12 years ago. It has taken me years to learn even basic social skills and I still find interaction and small talk very difficult. It runs in the family but really didn't help with happiness. While I got the best academic results in my year at school I would have swapped that for more general acceptance in social groups. Anyway I used to divert my efforts into work really. Only now am I learning to step back from all things purely functional and begin to appreciate anything artistic and cultural. I feel like I have wasted years really. Not sure I will ever "get" sociability, but have kind of learned it through experience. It's a funny old life.

I'm looking in the mirror!!

 

[Christoph1945]

I can't help but wonder if we are all really looking for somewhere to belong; or are just seeking to be accepted for who we are.

 

[Greenbeast]

I can't help but wonder if we are all really looking for somewhere to belong; or are just seeking to be accepted for who we are.

And as we know from the Stoics, worrying about things out of our control leads to unhappiness

 

[Juggler]

Chronic social isolation or loniless was a feature of my life until I got married 12 years ago. It has taken me years to learn even basic social skills and I still find interaction and small talk very difficult. It runs in the family but really didn't help with happiness. While I got the best academic results in my year at school I would have swapped that for more general acceptance in social groups. Anyway I used to divert my efforts into work really. Only now am I learning to step back from all things purely functional and begin to appreciate anything artistic and cultural. I feel like I have wasted years really. Not sure I will ever "get" sociability, but have kind of learned it through experience. It's a funny old life.

I'm looking in the mirror!!

Me too, substitute 12 years of marriage for 20 and that's me you've just described, uncanny. My wife and children have shaped me into the person I see in the mirror and I've begun to like that guy, although he is far from perfect and has a long way to go, and will also probably never 'get' sociability either.

 

[JCMaloney]

My mother lived by a fairly simple set of life rules.
"Worry about the things you can change, not what you can`t"
"You have two ears & one mouth for a good reason".
"If "if`s & and`s" were pots & pans, there would be no need to wash them".

Probably took me 40 years to realise she was right.