I've always wondered about that.Why is our industry full of so many deluded, sheltered, arrogant fools?
There is a neighbour of mine who knows fine well he is leaving an absolute mess for his kids but appears not to care a jot.
These clowns who are so full of their own self importance seem unaware (or openly unaware anyway, I refuse to believe they don't know the truth deep down inside) of the fact that ;
a) nobody thinks they're being clever, in fact quite the opposite ie "have you heard what that old fool is saying now" chats down the local pub.
and b) when they do eventually pop off, all their stupid 'rules' die with them, and they leave a legacy of a total mess.
These things go against all of what apparently drives them in their everyday life ie "I'm the boss and I'm so clever".
A very, very odd situation, which occurs far to often in our industry.
I actually think a lot of it is driven by insecurity and fear of change. The farming life can be isolated, and if someone isn't shown or taught certain things, or is a stubborn personality, and / or indulged, or happy to follow what went before without question, these things self perpetuate.
But who am I to say? It just makes me sad reading how many of us are dealing with similar.
The quote 'All happy families are alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way' springs to mind, I suspect a sort of agricultural obverse, cause I know a few guys like that and they're exactly as you describe.
Difference is they're still under 30.
My personal theory is that abuse is to blame in a lot of these cases.
I've got no idea about child development, and I don't know very much about these people's pasts. So I've always hoped I was wrong.