Hello all. What to do about this. Hope anyone can have an insight into this to help me understand how to navigate myself out of this one.
right here goes and I am up for constructive criticism and positive ways.
All my life I have grown up between two farms I was always the fella who does the buckraking from early 90s till I went to university which I now run a successful CCTV farm business and silage time has always been a passion of mine that wasn't "allowed" to do other jobs such as mowing, carting the grass (which I done when I came back from uni and its a role that my uncle or father is comfortable for me to do) my father and I rowed a lot about the nitty gritty details about silage he refuses to let me in to it into the past and today. my uncle is more willing to share the roles but even then in the past can be reluctant partner in silage times. I have always wanted to mow the grass at home ground and get a hand at the harvester. my father always gives the work to other people or my younger brother and he's away over seas to do some custom harvesting by himself.
when I finished uni I worked in Scotland for 5 years then came home and start again I had asked my father could use his tractor and I buy a mower to get me started for summer contracting and use his mart contacts to get me started he said no way so I'm still angry about because then theres people who didn't contract as much around as there is now and he that said I wouldn't make any money and F**K off.
so then I left the country again for a 2 or 3 years and came back to work to start a business in cameras (2009) its working well I had a house that my father got me to rent with land beside it. I had thought he was giving me a chance to buy it with non financial help from him just as guarantor turned out he bought it for himself he wasn't interested in the house but just the land and my mother wanted the house its a small bit of land 5 acres and and small house needless to say I was raging mad at the them for being selfish for what I wanted out of life and not helping at all.so then later on about a year later I married someone and we bought a house with 4 acres of land theres was sneering from people in my area cos I'm not a "farmer" or what u need 4 acres for that kind of attitude point is I wanted land to do what I wanted to do look after it and do all the tractor work needed to keep it and make a few pound out of it. but now I am going through separation with my wife due to a woman who is far too controlling I must attract those types!!!
I am now back in the house my father bought its been sitting empty since I left it haha but shouldn't be like that really. so lately he's put in his silage around he has a cousin he's very friendly with who does a lot of the tractor work for him and his friend puts in the silage for him with the mower and harvester. I did draw silage last week with my own tractor (Valtra) he recently used my tractor to top grass as he assumed he could use my tractor without permission so I'm still angry with my dad for his attitude cos today I asked him I've some quiet time coming up and could I put the slurry out for you with my tractor and what he do he called his mate and asked him to do it for him. im like unbelieveable.!!!
so my question to anyone who could help? I want to do silage for myself without being branded as childish or foolish yes I do have good business and make decent pound but why can't I do what I would enjoy doing as well that is mowing raking slurry silage harvester etc without having to put myself in debt in trying to get at it. I don't ask for much or am I?
btw this cousins friend started contract work with a leg up from his father 6 years ago his father had a tractor and he bought the rest and now works 800 acres a year and sometimes my father would help him too give him contacts give him a turn 10 years ago I wanted to do this. but my main question what do I do now and or will I take it lying down and let my dream go.....
right here goes and I am up for constructive criticism and positive ways.
All my life I have grown up between two farms I was always the fella who does the buckraking from early 90s till I went to university which I now run a successful CCTV farm business and silage time has always been a passion of mine that wasn't "allowed" to do other jobs such as mowing, carting the grass (which I done when I came back from uni and its a role that my uncle or father is comfortable for me to do) my father and I rowed a lot about the nitty gritty details about silage he refuses to let me in to it into the past and today. my uncle is more willing to share the roles but even then in the past can be reluctant partner in silage times. I have always wanted to mow the grass at home ground and get a hand at the harvester. my father always gives the work to other people or my younger brother and he's away over seas to do some custom harvesting by himself.
when I finished uni I worked in Scotland for 5 years then came home and start again I had asked my father could use his tractor and I buy a mower to get me started for summer contracting and use his mart contacts to get me started he said no way so I'm still angry about because then theres people who didn't contract as much around as there is now and he that said I wouldn't make any money and F**K off.
so then I left the country again for a 2 or 3 years and came back to work to start a business in cameras (2009) its working well I had a house that my father got me to rent with land beside it. I had thought he was giving me a chance to buy it with non financial help from him just as guarantor turned out he bought it for himself he wasn't interested in the house but just the land and my mother wanted the house its a small bit of land 5 acres and and small house needless to say I was raging mad at the them for being selfish for what I wanted out of life and not helping at all.so then later on about a year later I married someone and we bought a house with 4 acres of land theres was sneering from people in my area cos I'm not a "farmer" or what u need 4 acres for that kind of attitude point is I wanted land to do what I wanted to do look after it and do all the tractor work needed to keep it and make a few pound out of it. but now I am going through separation with my wife due to a woman who is far too controlling I must attract those types!!!
I am now back in the house my father bought its been sitting empty since I left it haha but shouldn't be like that really. so lately he's put in his silage around he has a cousin he's very friendly with who does a lot of the tractor work for him and his friend puts in the silage for him with the mower and harvester. I did draw silage last week with my own tractor (Valtra) he recently used my tractor to top grass as he assumed he could use my tractor without permission so I'm still angry with my dad for his attitude cos today I asked him I've some quiet time coming up and could I put the slurry out for you with my tractor and what he do he called his mate and asked him to do it for him. im like unbelieveable.!!!
so my question to anyone who could help? I want to do silage for myself without being branded as childish or foolish yes I do have good business and make decent pound but why can't I do what I would enjoy doing as well that is mowing raking slurry silage harvester etc without having to put myself in debt in trying to get at it. I don't ask for much or am I?
btw this cousins friend started contract work with a leg up from his father 6 years ago his father had a tractor and he bought the rest and now works 800 acres a year and sometimes my father would help him too give him contacts give him a turn 10 years ago I wanted to do this. but my main question what do I do now and or will I take it lying down and let my dream go.....
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