farming family relationships......

[Highland Mule]

I'd have hoped that someone who had been through university would have discovered paragraphs..................

And spelling, and grammar, and punctuation. Quite poor really, and a sad reflection of the quality of output from the current education system.

 

[Thomas5060]

And spelling, and grammar, and punctuation. Quite poor really, and a sad reflection of the quality of output from the current education system.

That's why I asked where he was from, seemed foreign

 

[wilber]

Get out and move on. Granted IT work is a drain and a massive bore (it is for me anyway but it's a stable wage) Just try and do your own thing as much as you can to achieve what you want in life, I would also put a good bit of distance between you and the family if you can.

We're all different, have different experiences in life and deal with it differently. Dont let family sentimentality get the better of you, it could end up a regret and a knife to your own throat.

 

[wilber]

And spelling, and grammar, and punctuation. Quite poor really, and a sad reflection of the quality of output from the current education system.

That's why I asked where he was from, seemed foreign

I imagine that being deaf is a pretty steep additional challege to a person's education. I thought this was a thefarmingforum not the englishpedantforum.

 

[Dr Evil]

And spelling, and grammar, and punctuation. Quite poor really, and a sad reflection of the quality of output from the current education system.

Not many computer science degrees award marks for the application of language (unless it's programming...)

 

[Highland Mule]

Disagree. If you can't demonstrate the ability to communicate effectively and properly, you shouldn't get any university degree.

 

[ladycrofter]

This thread . . .

 

[Doitzland]

Its getting nasty now. Thank you for your sound advice. I don't think its constructive bitching about grammar and spelling its not about the issue at hand. I will move on from this.
That said I am going through a tough time at the moment and I will come out of it above all this and going back to old issues is a road to ruin. Like the man said I will plough my own furrow and stay away.

Thanks again folks.

 

[Pasty]

I thought it was sleepy.

Nah, it's Boss.

 

[Farmer Miggins]

Its getting nasty now. Thank you for your sound advice. I don't think its constructive bitching about grammar and spelling its not about the issue at hand. I will move on from this.
That said I am going through a tough time at the moment and I will come out of it above all this and going back to old issues is a road to ruin. Like the man said I will plough my own furrow and stay away.

Thanks again folks.

Good luck fella, I left home over thirty years ago and did my own thing, best days work I ever did....

 

[Robt]

Good luck buddy, you seem quite switched on. Why is it deemed bad to enjoy driving tractors. My advice...... grow your cctv business enough so you can buy both farms and them sack them all!!!! ok maybe let them wash your tractors!
Seriously, life is too short to get hung up over family arguments. i once knew a paramedic that saved up all his leave and took five weeks off over harvest just to drive tractors.... When i asked him why... He said because he sees death and misery everyday its nice just to have a change.... each to their own!

 

[davieh3350]

Good luck buddy, you seem quite switched on. Why is it deemed bad to enjoy driving tractors. My advice...... grow your cctv business enough so you can buy both farms and them sack them all!!!! ok maybe let them wash your tractors!
Seriously, life is too short to get hung up over family arguments. i once knew a paramedic that saved up all his leave and took five weeks off over harvest just to drive tractors.... When i asked him why... He said because he sees death and misery everyday its nice just to have a change.... each to their own!

I'd save up all my days off and go be a paramedic too for a change.

If I got paired up with Celine that's in the local team even better I'm not qualified or owt, but the piglet I sewed back together done quite well.

 

[icanshootwell]

im not disagreeing with any of you in fact is sound advice im actually 38 yrs old like I say I run a business for nearly 10 years travelled in between yes I've done al the crap jobs when I was a teenager then asking to do mowing after uni which my uncle let me do a wee bit of it not all of it my dad did too but under protest its true I never stayed home but every time I comeback age old issues come back and its probably sad its like that but I do realise its never gonna change. but it does. annoy me when I see what I seen back then would have worked out for me if I had of been helped and I see my younger brother doing the jobs I didn't get doing I think he probably will get the farm anyway. all I ever wanted to do is the tractor work without expense. I think its more of top down thinking on the family part.
I studied computer networks...discouraged to do agriculture though.
I am also deaf but I do hear and speak well though.
local contractors will take me on with their tractors but not with mine even then they might take the P when it comes to the coin fobbing off comes to mind and then when they complain they can't get the help....

Your brother might be sh#t hot on the kit, i am not saying your not, but i knew 2 brothers , the one was good on stock and the other on machinery, find out what your good at and stick to it, by the way your dad sounds like a complete tw't if you dont mind me saying, family should stick together, life is to short.
My dad died a few years ago, we had our moments over the years, but normally worked it out, he never really retired, but he let me get on with it and backed me when i borrowed money on the farm for a new project. I was talking to a friend of my fathers the other day, he told me my dad was proud of my achievements,which was nice to know, i would of never heard that from my dad himself, that was what he was like, you only got told when you fuc'ed up. Good luck with it.

 

[michael N123]

I have the opposit problem 22 now and every year since ive left school my dad does less and less tractor work He'd rather be doing sheep work shepherding ect and i cant blame him

 

[Derrick Hughes]

Tractor driving is the pits , although I did quite enjoy my days tedding last week , as for responsibly what parrent would not want their young to want it and be given all they desire and encouraged to take more , you dont know how lucky you are if you have offspring that do and staff if it comes to that

 

[J 1177]

Tractor driving is the pits , although I did quite enjoy my days tedding last week , as for responsibly what parrent would not want their young to want it and be given all they desire and encouraged to take more , you dont know how lucky you are if you have offspring that do and staff if it comes to that

When i was younger tractor work is what i loved. Now i couldnt give a toss. Id rather be working with stock or bodging machinery.

 

[davieh3350]

A little bit of everything is the best. Spent Saturday afternoon, most of Sunday and till 12 yesterday rotovating a field... Was glad to be collecting beef from the butchers today!

 

[Derrick Hughes]

Sunday is day of rest, except when is F1 racing weekend

 

[Rob Holmes]

In your opening post you said you were the only one that did the buckraking? The most important job in the harvest chain!

Maybe you end up doing that is because your dad think you do a good job at it (maybe even better than them?)

You could take it as a back-handed compliment

 

[Doitzland]

In your opening post you said you were the only one that did the buckraking? The most important job in the harvest chain!

Maybe you end up doing that is because your dad think you do a good job at it (maybe even better than them?)

You could take it as a back-handed compliment

or that you were kept in your corner most people hate the pit work I was the best at it so I was kept there suited them but didnt suit me ALL the time every season.
They want to be out the field I did do the later years carting silage but seems to be a common theme that
sowing,mowing and harvesting is off limits that was then.
Nowadays Im older now and I still havent done large hours of the latter its something I want to do to get out of my system and move on.

But like have always thought once a c**t always a c**t.Farming pah its all an ego and power trip on their part silage time.

They have no interest in passing on roles or sharing pure ignorance.

But most people on have families that are flexible and help each other I think anyway.

Advice is sound here didnt think you guys see it clearly.
Cheers