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Walterp

Member
Location
Pembrokeshire
My youngest brother's nothing like me; he's tall, good-looking and charming, for starters.

Is he bright, as well? Truth is, I don't know: he still can't read books very well, but he can read people like, err, a book - by 16 he was charming his successive girlfriends out of their knickers with ease, and by the time he was 30 he'd had 'em all: nurses, secretaries, housewives, middle class, working class, some with no discernible class at all, white girls, black girls, even a couple of Thai birds (at the same time, naturally, because "it's more fun that way, Walterp, just like mothers and daughters").

But he never found his niche in life; so he stayed in the niche he was born - my father promised my dying mother that he would 'look after' my youngest brother because he was a slow learner and it's the only promise my old man hasn't broken - the family farm has supported my brother through thick and thin. My youngest brother has never worked, and he's now 50.

So the stay-at-home brother had to work even harder, milking more cows, keeping more beef cattle, starting a flock, growing veg, 'cos the bills just kept on getting bigger: first the farm paid for my youngest brother's fuel, then his vehicles, then buying him a house, then paying his household bills, etc - because Job-Seeker's Allowance doesn't go very far, does it? Never was the phrase 'family farm' more apt - now it's paying bills for my brother's natural daughters, as well, and they are proving just as fertile, so that there's a few natural great-grandchildren, too.

No wonder the stay-at-home brother always looks so sour: he never had time off to drink and chase girls, because there was so much work to do. And now he's 51, it's a bit late to start a family of his own.

Despite 35 years of draining expense, my old man quite likes my youngest brother and entourage ("they're just so much fun, see") whilst stay-at-home brother gets faint praise ("sure he's done all the work, but he's just so fudging miserable all the time, and he's got no family, has he?").

I thought I could sort this out, but I failed. My key advice was that father had to retire, 'cos the reason the family business hadn't gone anywhere in 35 years was that it had been too busy supporting the wrong family.

Just out of interest, was my answer incorrect? Or did I simply ask myself the wrong question?
 

Walterp

Member
Location
Pembrokeshire
I think you'd be better just to stop asking the questions and enjoy what you've created for yourself and your family. There really is no point analysing everything.

How was the gig?
Very good; no backing group, no drums, just Difford and Tillbrook doing mainly the old stuff.

Highlight was probably 'Labelled With Love'.

I hope that I don't look as old as everyone else there, and that the beer improves.
 

Walterp

Member
Location
Pembrokeshire
Are you jelous of your brothers youth.im sure alot of this goes on and people wont post in case someone they know reads it and accuses them of sour grapes etc
Nick...
Good question: I like the 'how many lovers have you had?' scene from 'Four Weddings..' - I'd be thinking that Hugh Grant was promiscuous (which, it turns out, he was) and I wouldn't really know what to make of 30 or 40 sexual partners.

Georges Simenon claimed thousands, but does screwing the chambermaid whilst she was making the bed (a Simenon favourite) really count as '1'?
 

Clive

Staff Member
Arable Farmer
Location
Lichfield
I have never understood what on earth makes a sibling that chose not to be part of a business think that they somehow are entitled to a part of that business ?

You make choices in life, for me I'm pretty sure that running the family business was not the most lucrative thing I could have done with my working life but it was what I wanted to do, I wouldn't do it for anyone other than previous or future generations benifit however, why should those that made choices to do other things with their life benifit from my work, risk and skill ?
 

multi power

Member
Location
pembrokeshire
I have never understood what on earth makes a sibling that chose not to be part of a business think that they somehow are entitled to a part of that business ?

You make choices in life, for me I'm pretty sure that running the family business was not the most lucrative thing I could have done with my working life but it was what I wanted to do, I wouldn't do it for anyone other than previous or future generations benifit however, why should those that made choices to do other things with their life benifit from my work, risk and skill ?

thats the very reason im reluctant to do much at "home" these days, mum says it has to be a 3 way split, so why should i subidise my brothers any more
 

roscoe erf

Member
Livestock Farmer
My youngest brother's nothing like me; he's tall, good-looking and charming, for starters.

Is he bright, as well? Truth is, I don't know: he still can't read books very well, but he can read people like, err, a book - by 16 he was charming his successive girlfriends out of their knickers with ease, and by the time he was 30 he'd had 'em all: nurses, secretaries, housewives, middle class, working class, some with no discernible class at all, white girls, black girls, even a couple of Thai birds (at the same time, naturally, because "it's more fun that way, Walterp, just like mothers and daughters").

But he never found his niche in life; so he stayed in the niche he was born - my father promised my dying mother that he would 'look after' my youngest brother because he was a slow learner and it's the only promise my old man hasn't broken - the family farm has supported my brother through thick and thin. My youngest brother has never worked, and he's now 50.

So the stay-at-home brother had to work even harder, milking more cows, keeping more beef cattle, starting a flock, growing veg, 'cos the bills just kept on getting bigger: first the farm paid for my youngest brother's fuel, then his vehicles, then buying him a house, then paying his household bills, etc - because Job-Seeker's Allowance doesn't go very far, does it? Never was the phrase 'family farm' more apt - now it's paying bills for my brother's natural daughters, as well, and they are proving just as fertile, so that there's a few natural great-grandchildren, too.

No wonder the stay-at-home brother always looks so sour: he never had time off to drink and chase girls, because there was so much work to do. And now he's 51, it's a bit late to start a family of his own.

Despite 35 years of draining expense, my old man quite likes my youngest brother and entourage ("they're just so much fun, see") whilst stay-at-home brother gets faint praise ("sure he's done all the work, but he's just so fudging miserable all the time, and he's got no family, has he?").

I thought I could sort this out, but I failed. My key advice was that father had to retire, 'cos the reason the family business hadn't gone anywhere in 35 years was that it had been too busy supporting the wrong family.

Just out of interest, was my answer incorrect? Or did I simply ask myself the wrong question?
got any sisters walt :whistle::D
 

bobk

Member
Location
stafford
Hey Walter, you should know that no good ever came of looking back its full of regret and what have might have been............. this is not your first rodeo, life is about tomorrow..................go and grab some of it..!

I agree an here's a more apt tune from a better band


 

SFI - What % were you taking out of production?

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Red Tractor drops launch of green farming scheme amid anger from farmers

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As reported in Independent


quote: “Red Tractor has confirmed it is dropping plans to launch its green farming assurance standard in April“

read the TFF thread here: https://thefarmingforum.co.uk/index.php?threads/gfc-was-to-go-ahead-now-not-going-ahead.405234/
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