Funerals and the endless march of time

Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by Whitewalker, Jan 18, 2018.

  1. Whitewalker

    Whitewalker Member

    After my dad passing coming Up on a couple of years now and being at local funerals recently of neighbours, it has actually just hit home how much the countryside is changing around us. The people that I remember as a child and my dad talked about are slowly dying off the new people are moving in and the cycle is starting over again with my children . The older folks that are being buried now my children are hardly going to remember and all the old men in my dad’s time are as much as invisible now .

    An uncle of my father once told him “we are the last of the old men and you are the old men “ I have never forgotten it.

    That saying is ringing true for me now too. It makes me think of the little precious time I have left too .
  2. David.

    David. Member

    J11 M40
    Was brought up short one day at a family get-together; it suddenly occurred to me that we have become our parents and our youngsters hold the position where we still optimistically think of ourselves as being... and when we really were there, our grandparents were still alive
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  3. Whitewalker

    Whitewalker Member

    So true .
  4. I hate time and it’s relentless March.

    We don’t have a lot and haven’t ever done anything amazing, but I’m easily pleased and very happy with our life.

    But time...... I bloody hate it and it really plays on my mind occasionally.
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  5. silverfox

    silverfox Member

    Felt very similar thoughts lately, with the recent passing of my father and another birthday looming next week.
    Been to a few funerals recently of people younger than me, so a mix of relief that were still here and determination to try and make the most of it.
    My dad was 30 yrs older than me and I’m 30 years older than my son. Time seems to move much more quickly as you get older.
  6. Goweresque

    Goweresque Member

    North Wilts
    Pink Floyd nailed it 45 years ago:

  7. Whitewalker

    Whitewalker Member

    It does or do we slow down.
  8. I think I’m on the cusp,neither young nor old,I’m 46.

    I do feel I am no longer young however our children are rapidly maturing as they go through school and ushering me along towards old.

    It is a strange feeling looking back and thinking ,yes,school is now quite a long time ago.
  9. Sussex Martin

    Sussex Martin Member

    Burham Kent
    My mother was one of 13 children so I had loads of aunts and uncles, buried the last of them quite a few years ago and at the wake one of my cousins did remark that the next funeral we all attend will be of one of us. That always stuck in my mind, especially since I’ve been to the funerals of two of my brothers.
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  10. silverfox

    silverfox Member

    I read somewhere that’s it’s all to do with the brain getting used to everything we do as being normal and mundane as we get older, so we need to do things we’ve never done or experienced before to stimulate our sense of time being extended.( or something like that !)
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  11. Andy54

    Andy54 Member

    Mum lost an Auntie on Monday, Tuesday we got the news about a family friend passing, this morning we got the sad news about Dad's Auntie and this afternoon learnt that our former neighbour died three weeks ago and we hadn't heard.
    Think it might be safer to stop in bed tomorrow.
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  12. itsalwaysme

    itsalwaysme Member

    I've read a theory that it's all to do with the time we've been alive, when we were at school six week summer holiday would seem a long time but now six weeks seems to fly by, but as a young child six weeks would be quite a chunk of your life (think of it as a percentage of time you've been alive) where as, as you get older that "chunk" is much less, (does that make sense)
  13. Sussex Martin

    Sussex Martin Member

    Burham Kent
    I can also remember something I read similar but they explained it that when young you are learning more and it keeps the mind occupied. As you age there is less to learn so your mind becomes less active and time flies past. To counter this you had to do new things on a regular basis and this would occupy your mind more and time would seem to pass slower, or something like that :scratchhead:.
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  14. Red Fred

    Red Fred Member

    It's best not to think about it. Never having had kids, I've never grown up in my head and still feel as if I am post-college with lots of things to do in the future. The last 30 years have been great on a day-to-day basis, but if I'm asked to remember what happened in the 1990s for instance, I find the whole decade passed without leaving much impression.
    What's scary is watching TOTP2 on tellie and thinking "Wow,that Blondie track was 40 years ago!" 40 years back from then was 1938, Glenn Miller, Vera Lynn, etc and ancient history.Project 40 years forward and I could be 95, but in reality probably long gone and forgotten.
  15. My mum died last year & I was at the village churchyard to bury her ashes before the rest of the family . While I waited I saw graves of folk I knew from a few years ago , it certainly focuses the mind .
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  16. Clever Dic

    Clever Dic Member

    Yesterday I went to a funeral of a friend who I was at school with he died on a family holiday aged 53. Made me think as the my son was 18 yesterday as well ..yes time relentlessly and without compassion or favour moves forward. Now 53 myself I look back at things I did Rugby , Ride ect and know I will not be that person again .
    But by the same token I am probably as happy as I have ever been. You lose your angst and anxieties and realize much more what is actually really important, friends and family I am loving watching my son and daughter grow into rounded and caring adults, making their own mark.
    I love having time to go to the gym with my wife or watch the grown children at their sports learning new skills and activities (sailing)
    My wife always tells me enjoy to the maximum the age you are in as you never know what's round the corner.
    Growing old is maybe not great but my friend never got the chance.
  17. ARW

    ARW Member

    As a single person you are a mere blip in the universe, the scythe is remorseless and we will all be gone and long forgotten in a few generations.
    Just had a thought that in 100 years time your children’s children could be reasearching you and reading posts from you on the farming forum!
  18. Red Fred

    Red Fred Member

    I don't know if everyone feels the same, but I remember at 20 sometimes waking up in a sweat thinking "One day I won't be here! I can't bear it!" but now I don't really mind at all, not that I want to go, but it doesn't bother me any more.
  19. yellowbelly

    yellowbelly Member

    Some very sobering posts for those of us 'of a certain age'.

    We go through various stages in life, it starts with 21st parties, then it's weddings, then it's christenings, then it's silver weddings and now, unfortunately, we've arrived at funerals.

    Farm like you're going to live for ever but live like you're going to die tomorrow.
  20. Wellytrack

    Wellytrack Member

    Growing old is better than the alternative.
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