Loner
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- Location
- South Manchester
Yeah I know..... blokes don`t talk about it.
After I lost my Mum I thought I was dealing with things "OK", turns out I wasn`t.
Home & work both suffered as did voluntary stuff I do, I didn`t know my arse from my elbow but it didn`t seem to be important.
Fast forward a year or two of "getting by" and I almost imploded, things started going wrong and I was making bad choices so I self referred myself to Occupational Health at work.
Being diagnosed with depression was a wake up call & a half...it only happens to "other people" right?
Never got as far as jumping off a roof or sitting on the trainline but (if I`m honest) it wasn`t far off.
Don`t be like me.............accept you aren`t coping.....ask for help.
I suffered from depression for along time,it is controlled by medication.
I went through the councilling but there is only so much you can do within that as there comes a time when there is nothing else to say.
Most of the depression problems are triggered by life events,and I had many of those when I was young,and then when I got married we lost one child through a tragedy.
Later on I was traumatized when I took action against someone who entered a post office and started to push elderly people on to the floor, I soon realized it was a robbery.
I was angered by the violence shown to the elderly people who were queing up for their weekly money.
I lifted one of the tall smokers type bin up as the robber came from behind the counter,I did not realize he had a gun in his hand, I didn't wait I hit him over the head with the bin,he fled with an accomplish who was at the door,I followed and picked a lot of bundles of money up and put them in the bin,I returned it the post office, gave my statement to the police , and went home.
After this event I went in to a very dark place,my thoughts were all over the place.
And that was the final button that was pressed to send me in to a huge depressive state.
Things did happen as a thank you for the action I took, but it did nothing to stop the images of those elderly people being knocked down , and the fear on their faces.
And I now see many people in the news and from all walks of life who have or are suffering due to life incidents of many kinds.
But as you say,people now need to seek help from their own doctor to get the facilities in place that are out there to help them as soon as they know they are suffering.
Discussions like this do help, and if you are male /female or any gender you can act on the information yourself.