Our Greatest asset in farming is our wife/partner and staff?

[Pilatus]

As above ,sadly some of you have domestic breakdowns but why was that? Many of you will tell me ,"what business is it of mine " that in it self may mean you perhaps were the cause. OK tell me to mind my own business but in doing so you add that adds to to your gilt. DID I PUT FARMING BEFORE MY FAMILY?

 

[Properjob]

Rained off from harvest and been down the pub?

 

[abitdaft]

As above ,sadly some of you have domestic breakdowns but why was that? Many of you will tell me ,"what business is it of mine " that in it self may mean you perhaps were the cause. OK tell me to mind my own business but in doing so you add that adds to to your gilt. DID I PUT FARMING BEFORE MY FAMILY?

My father in law died. I had been married for over 15 years and had no idea really what my husband did day to day. It was a baptism of fire. I had to learn everything from scratch. I had to learn to use the bike, I had to learn to work with sheep, I had to learn to work with beasts and basically learn the skills needed to work in farming ASAP. It has not been easy and every day is a learning curve. Now I am involved in everything that happens on the farm.
I like to see things for what they are worth. I know my value on the farm, I am not a patch on my husband but I am capable of getting the job done. I also am way better at paperwork than he is.

 

[Happy at it]

If I wasn't in farming i would be in a profession with a similar attitude, where you would be rewarded for extra effort put in. Hate the notion that if your life isn't a happy skippy Brady bunch version of life, that your not doing the thing right. Everybody is different,but is working hard to better yourself and family a bad thing.

 

[yellowbelly]

Our Greatest asset in farming is our wife/partner and staff?
No staff here (well, if you don't count the dog), but I'd have to say Mrs Y B is my greatest asset.

She's reared two children and countless cade lambs, virtually single handed.
She does the books and all the banking (I haven't a clue how much we have/haven't in the bank)
She organises our 'hectic social whirl' - I just rock up roughly within an hour of when we should have left or when folk are due to arrive.
She does all the cooking I rock up, as above.
She does the shepherding when I go to market.
When we have a good trade she always says, "You did really well" (although she's now a partner - the accountant said it would save me having to start a pension scheme for her and pay her a wage. On the upside, she occasionally sees her name 'in lights' in the market report )
She never complains - well, not too much
..........and she's my best friend.
I really don't know what I've done to deserve her

She's from a long line of farming stock so she really 'gets' the farming thing - it's easy to see why a lass that's not from a farming background finds it difficult. So any of you young 'uns out there, looking for a partner, try to find one with the 'right EBV's', it's a great asset.

She has one bad habit - she occasionally stalks me on TFF so if I go missing for a bit, it's because she's taken exception to this post

EDIT...
The OP asks, "Did I put farming before my family?"
Well, maybe sometimes it looks like it but I'm sure we don't mean to - it's just the nature of the job, stuff needs doing,when it needs doing (especially if it's livestock or weather related). That's why you need a partner that truly 'gets farming'.

 

[Johnnyboxer]

Our Greatest asset in farming is our wife/partner and staff?
No staff here (well, if you don't count the dog), but I'd have to say Mrs Y B is my greatest asset.

She's reared two children and countless cade lambs, virtually single handed.
She does the books and all the banking (I haven't a clue how much we have/haven't in the bank)
She organises our 'hectic social whirl' - I just rock up roughly within an hour of when we should have left or when folk are due to arrive.
She does all the cooking I rock up, as above.
She does the shepherding when I go to market.
When we have a good trade she always says, "You did really well" (although she's now a partner - the accountant said it would save me having to start a pension scheme for her and pay her a wage. On the upside, she occasionally sees her name 'in lights' in the market report )
She never complains - well, not too much
..........and she's my best friend.
I really don't know what I've done to deserve her

She's from a long line of farming stock so she really 'gets' the farming thing - it's easy to see why a lass that's not from a farming background finds it difficult. So any of you young 'uns out there, looking for a partner, try to find one with the 'right EBV's', it's a great asset.

She has one bad habit - she occasionally stalks me on TFF so if I go missing for a bit, it's because she's taken exception to this post

EDIT...

Bless her, she sounds like a gem of a diamond

 

[yellowbelly]

Bless her, she sounds like a gem of a diamond

Aye, she's not a bad old stick.
Females that have got past their breeding days don't usually last very long here.

Made an exception in her case though

 

[Derrick Hughes]

As above ,sadly some of you have domestic breakdowns but why was that? Many of you will tell me ,"what business is it of mine " that in it self may mean you perhaps were the cause. OK tell me to mind my own business but in doing so you add that adds to to your gilt. DID I PUT FARMING BEFORE MY FAMILY?

Everyone is different. It's not a one size fits all
How many have children who dont want to farm , wives who go out to work . Wives who resent their partner spending all his time working and never with the family
All I can say Is, never put work before your family

 

[rusty]

I did a Nuffield Farming scholarship 10 years ago looking 'Dairy Farm Expansion' .Basically I travelled to 4 countries meeting farmers who had expanded from small beginning to 300 cow plus size. The most common factor I found amongst all the farms I visited was strong Husband / Wife partnerships running them.

 

[Brisel]

To the post title, my answer is certainly YES. Mrs Brisel keeps me sane and fed and supported when I want to come home and kick the proverbial cat (2 terriers means I don't have a cat). My team are also a great asset. There's no way I'd manage 2800 acres of crops, stewardship, gamekeepers & estate stuff by myself & they are very good at it, needing little supervision.

You are never alone.

 

[SilliamWhale]

Mine was an arsehole

 

[Lowland1]

My only problem is mine and my son have started to gang up on me and think that now they can run the farm better than I can.

 

[Johnnyboxer]

Mine was an arsehole

I think the ovverriding theme here is ....................choose wisely

I didn't first time, but now have got a diamond and job's a good'un

 

[Av Gorritt]

One or two observations from a lifetime of experience . NEVER marry for money , you'll certainly earn it later . BUT , try to do your loving where the money is ( cynical perhaps ) ALWAYS have a good look at her mother - in 25 years , she'll be just like her . and also beauty is only skin deep , in dairying terms "dual purpose " is the holy grail . Preferably find one with a farming background , although this isn't essential , it does help though when the going gets a bit tough , and they've seen it all before . It also helps if you make a commitment to not argue seriously , it helps to go outside away from the argument if one is developing , You probably will live an outdoor lifestyle as a follow on from this , but that's healthy .

 

[Bald Rick]

Mine was an arsehole

Every hole a goal ...........

 

[Y Fan Wen]

My only problem is mine and my son have started to gang up on me and think that now they can run the farm better than I can.

Remember, your wife is always right.

 

[Robt]

My father put work first. When i was young i was resentful. Now older, i can see he did ti to earn the money to keep us a family. Luckily he retired at 72 and is still healthy. I am now putting work before family to provide the very best for them. Its very hard to find the perfect happy medium. A lot is said for being on a family farm and working close to home. You may work long hours but dont work nights away... No industry is really any different to farming in that getting the balance wrong slowly breaks down the family

 

[2wheels]

To the post title, my answer is certainly YES. Mrs Brisel keeps me sane and fed and supported when I want to come home and kick the proverbial cat (2 terriers means I don't have a cat). My team are also a great asset. There's no way I'd manage 2800 acres of crops, stewardship, gamekeepers & estate stuff by myself & they are very good at it, needing little supervision.

You are never alone.

so what exactly do you do?

 

[SilliamWhale]

Every hole a goal ...........

This is not the place to discuss your predilections..

 

[Bob the beef]

Aye, she's not a bad old stick.
Females that have got past their breeding days don't usually last very long here.

Made an exception in her case though

You're being ridiculously brave now
If you weren't in the before, you definitely are now