Coximus
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Your almost on the ball their.thats sort of what im getting at .If the condition created eratic and toxic behavior, then asigning a name /title to it might not help factually in a court proceeding but if enough people got to recognise its existense as a personality trait ,then down the line perhaps ,finding solutions would be easier for persons who come across this situation. Totally agree with a diagnosis on a professional level but being able to say that whoever is being victimised would be able to say that the behavior that has been used against them has been narcassistic Rather than haveing to explain every little aspect of strange behavior . on a comparable note ,it is easy to show someone is racist or sexist or even coercive but to explain narcassistic behavior, is quite difficult because its more an like extream case of multiple traits rolled into one and not seen my many others aside from the target
Sexism or racism is relatively easy to prove because its relative between two or more fixed points of reference.
Narcissistic behavior, is not individual acts but a series of acts over a long period of time, characterized by manipulation, self serving acts, lack of insight and empathy, and very often a genuine belief that their world view, no matter how bizarre or wrong, is right.
The issue is saying its narcissistic, because individual acts which is what the law has to judge in most civil cases, rarely are on their own. TBH its something to factor in when talking to your solicitor, as it will help them frame and develop the arguments in court to present to the judge better showing how the person is carefully managing things to the detriment of their victim. (In law it would be coercive and controlling behavior in many ways). If the judge then concludes the person was narcissistic then great, but at the end of the day its just a word, and as long as justice is done, who really cares? Should you?
Plus from what I saw in an imploding family - when the narcissist is faced with reality kicking the doors to their fantasy world down, they will behave like someone high on drugs, as they mentally flail trying to create a narrative that makes the new world fit their world view, they will then implode as their behavior becomes very erratic, if not down right dangerous, because they are faced with consequences they don't actually understand/comprehend, because in their world nothing bad has happened.