Rudeness at work

[Drirwin]

Hello all, not directly related to farming but I thought you might be interested in my new article in The Conversation on rudeness: https://theconversation.com/thats-just-rude-why-being-polite-may-not-be-a-universal-concept-94187
I was also curious if rudeness at work is something many of you have to deal with? Perhaps not within the farm, but what about external people - suppliers etc.

 

[RWG Contracts]

Hello all, not directly related to farming but I thought you might be interested in my new article in The Conversation on rudeness: https://theconversation.com/thats-just-rude-why-being-polite-may-not-be-a-universal-concept-94187
I was also curious if rudeness at work is something many of you have to deal with? Perhaps not within the farm, but what about external people - suppliers etc.

There’s a difference between rudeness and bluntness I think. For me a spade is a spade and that’s that, but if you use your please and thank you s and talk to others how you want to be spoke to them you can’t go far wrong

 

[DRC]

My daughter works in the farming trade and it makes me very angry how rude many farmers are to her on the telephone .
I’d like to get hold of some of them and give them a piece of my mind, ignorant barstewards . Typical was a so called big farmer/ potatoe grower from up north, who rang her Friday afternoon after a load of fertiliser. Was extremely rude and snappy from the start of the conversation and in the end didn’t even wait until she had a price and stormed off.
She’s very tempted to tell half of them to fudge off.

 

[Pilgrimmick]

My daughter works in the farming trade and it makes me very angry how rude many farmers are to her on the telephone .
I’d like to get hold of some of them and give them a piece of my mind, ignorant barstewards . Typical was a so called big farmer/ potatoe grower from up north, who rang her Friday afternoon after a load of fertiliser. Was extremely rude and snappy from the start of the conversation and in the end didn’t even wait until she had a price and stormed off.
She’s very tempted to tell half of them to fudge off.

Just put the price up!

 

[Dry Rot]

Interesting!

I agree with your article except that I've noticed that whispering isn't considered obligatory in libraries in the far north. It is quite OK to use normal conversation levels!

John Huston, the film director, maintained that 'territory' is what is important to most people and an infringement of personal territory will upset people quicker than anything. So an employee's role in employment needs to be clearly defined. I think this was mentioned in a thread when a tractor, for example, becomes accepted as one employee's "property" (though it actually belongs to the farm) and any interference with that "property" by another employee, or even the boss, is resented. The idea of 'property' can be extended to knowledge or expertise, so someone in charge of (say) calf rearing will resent being told what to do by the pig man! The telling needs to be done very tactfully so territory is not encroached.

 

[dstudent]

 

[Dry Rot]

Just put the price up!

A friend of mine runs a boarding kennels. We were comparing notes about people who turn up late for appointments or, worse still, turn up early! He said it did not bother him in the slightest. As he is an irascible old sod, I expressed surprise and asked why?

He said, "Oh, I just stick another £50 on the bill. If they are so dozey they can't turn up on time, they'll never remember what I quoted in the first place". Not only does it work, but it is immensely gratifying!

 

[Drirwin]

That is interesting - the idea of territory, I wonder then if this is a general issue on large farms with lots of employees and lots of pieces of equipment to take ownership of what do people do in those situations - take the offender aside and explain why it's not 'theirs'?

Interesting!

I agree with your article except that I've noticed that whispering isn't considered obligatory in libraries in the far north. It is quite OK to use normal conversation levels!

John Huston, the film director, maintained that 'territory' is what is important to most people and an infringement of personal territory will upset people quicker than anything. So an employee's role in employment needs to be clearly defined. I think this was mentioned in a thread when a tractor, for example, becomes accepted as one employee's "property" (though it actually belongs to the farm) and any interference with that "property" by another employee, or even the boss, is resented. The idea of 'property' can be extended to knowledge or expertise, so someone in charge of (say) calf rearing will resent being told what to do by the pig man! The telling needs to be done very tactfully so territory is not encroached.

 

[dstudent]

I have the above sign on my phone, I work part time in my local hospital, it s not even the rudness that bothers me much, it s the unkindness, the lack of compassion. I ve seen midwives and doctors been punched for simply following procedures.
A young midwife got slapped the other day by a visitor simply for telling them that no we don t have a microwave and no the patient should not eat before a C section.
A doctor got attacked because he tried to explain another visitor he can t get in the op theatre with his street clothes. Another midwife got punched when she asked 10 people to leave the room of a laboring woman.
What drives me mad is people not giving the seat to a laboring woman and after been told this is the labor ward and seats are only for patients

 

[dstudent]

There’s a difference between rudeness and bluntness I think. For me a spade is a spade and that’s that, but if you use your please and thank you s and talk to others how you want to be spoke to them you can’t go far wrong

Ah but you see if you go to Rome and say please and thank you, people will think you are taking the mickey and tell you to fudge off, for them that s rude

 

[Yale]

Does TV influence people?

Rudeness makes for good tv at times so there tends to be a lot in reality programmes.

If everyone were polite to each other their programmes would be boring.

 

[Still Farming]

They always think their the most important person ,"Biggest" farmers ,"most" busiest etc.etc.
Some right "clowns"out there ?
Out of "their" world they are useless ?

 

[Still Farming]

Ah but you see if you go to Rome and say please and thank you, people will think you are taking the mickey and tell you to fudge off, for them that s rude

Don't mention "The Germans",on Holidays ????

 

[Pilgrimmick]

Don't mention "The Germans",on Holidays ????

Fawlty Towers, there is a whole course on rudeness there!

 

[JP1]

I have the above sign on my phone, I work part time in my local hospital, it s not even the rudness that bothers me much, it s the unkindness, the lack of compassion. I ve seen midwives and doctors been punched for simply following procedures.
A young midwife got slapped the other day by a visitor simply for telling them that no we don t have a microwave and no the patient should not eat before a C section.
A doctor got attacked because he tried to explain another visitor he can t get in the op theatre with his street clothes. Another midwife got punched when she asked 10 people to leave the room of a laboring woman.
What drives me mad is people not giving the seat to a laboring woman and after been told this is the labor ward and seats are only for patients

That's unbelievable

 

[davieh3350]

Don't mention "The Germans",on Holidays ????

I'm going to be rude now... Stop using feckin question marks after a statement



I get stern looks in Sardinia till they hear I'm Scottish and not German (I like Germans by the way)

 

[Pilgrimmick]

That's unbelievable

The really sad thing, is that it is not unbelievable!

 

[David.]

"Oh, you are German; I'm terribly sorry, I thought there was something wrong with you."

 

[RWG Contracts]

That's unbelievable

After my brief in stay in hospital I can believe it. Can’t believe how rude people are to the nurses and doctors in charge of keeping them alive.


Best thing for some of them would be a quick injection of lead

 

[7610 super q]

Does TV influence people?

Rudeness makes for good tv at times so there tends to be a lot in reality programmes.

If everyone were polite to each other their programmes would be boring.

I was wondering that. OK, so I've never managed to sit though more than 5 minutes of Eastenders.....but Watch too much of that shite, and end up acting like shite ?