Some really wise words there. I did have words at the weekend and actually we went out for the day yesterday. We had a walk and a picnic and it was lovely. Just what we needed. No stress, no fuss, just a few hours togetherWell a bit of interesting reading on here, and myself after divorces and 2 kids, have come to the conclusion that, working all the hours God sends and hardly seeing her never mind the kids, that there is just really not enough hours in the day, why you ask ?,
Well while your out there working 16 hours a day, when divorce comes along they will want 8 of them hours, as she could take half of them through the courts, so half of every thing adds up i can tell you, (twice)
Now if you worked 10 hours a day, you could be 2 hours better off, as the other 6 can be spent in family time, and lesson the chance of a split,
As for them saying, they can't afford to have time off, then your hobby is not paying enough, or you have bitten off more than you can chew, as for saying you cannot have time away, b0llocks, what would happen if you broke a leg or got ill, you would have to get someone in to help, or change the work load,
Its not a sign of weakness or failure to spend time with your family, nor should it be seen as such, as for the kids, yes you will miss them growing up, and that is something that is lost forever, to the point 1 of my kids does not speak to me, and the grandfather wanting to see the grandchildren thing, mainly comes from the fact they missed out on their own kids childhood,
Ask yourself the big question, why did you marry our wife ?
Was it someone you wanted to spend your whole life with, to love and care for, share and enjoy being together as one union, and cherish time together ?
Or someone that will be home with meals on the table, a ride whenever you fancy it, someone unpaid to cook clean and wash your clothes, oh and if some kids come along, then she might as well bring them up on her own as well, as your too busy for any of that stuff,
Just sit a moment and think, if the tables were turned, could you cope doing what your wife does ?. (I thought about this many years to late, as you cannot see the wood from the trees at the time)
Yes I made some bad mistakes working to much, and there is time it hurts emotionally of what I did by just not being there,
Yes we all need to work, but work to live, not live to work,
Also consider this, which is your number 1 priority, is it A, your family, or B. your work,
If your so lucky that your wife is not demanding, then it may not take a lot of your time,
If she is demanding then it will take more of your time, either way don't take her for granted, remember that you made the choice to say I do in church, so just get on and do it, I didn't and that was my down fall,
Hindsight is a wonderful thing, if I had known this 20 years sooner, than when I realised things could of been a lot different,