- Location
- LINCOLNSHIRE/KENYA
I treated your first post as a bit of a joke but you seem not to understand people having different lives so I will explain. For the first five years of their lives they went everywhere with either me or my wife. My wife is a vet and specialized in large animals specially horses but also did wildlife so it’s a good idea to make sure a horse doesn’t tread on your child. Living here means you can have a permanent childminder a cook a gardener etc which actually means you get plenty of quality time with your kids. When it was time for them to go to school there are very few options if you want an English education so our choice was an 80 mile round trip on extremely dangerous roads or Boarding. If your kids have never been to school then boarding school is what they think school is plus they actually get to meet other kids like them. The school had horses which my wife looked after so she saw the kids often in term time we never missed a single match or open day. School holidays are much longer at Posh schools so long holidays coupled with living on a big farm in Africa surrounded by wildlife are pretty good they could drive themselves around and both could operate tractors and other machinery from a young age .Both kids got scholarships to a very good school in England so off they went. From the age of 10 they had been travelling back and forwards to England on their own to visit their Grandfather so they unlike many kids their age they were very grown up. Both have got good A levels are at reasonable Universities my son played U15 cricket for Kenya at 12 and my daughter is a good hockey player. No one has raised my Children we have done that but we have had a lot of help. Lots of abused children see their parents everyday. It’s cost an absolute fortune to educate my kids but it’s money well spent because they will be able to make their own way in life. They may not inherit much but they have a great opportunity to make something of themselves.I accept its a cultural difference but to me the outsourcing of parenting seems a very sad and selfish decision. Its akin to buying a big expensive boat which never leaves its expensive marina, just to be able to talk about having a big expensive boat moored in an expensive marina, only with a person.