It's probably true that on the average dairy farm in the old days you didn't need 3 phase, with most motors only being 1 hp, as my father didn't in his dairy, but now as you're finding out the modern dairy farm uses a lot more motors and the total current draw is getting quite near to the 100 amp capacity of a single phase supply, especially on start up.Decent prospect of getting 3 phase installed here soon due to upcoming line upgrade. But I need to own up, despite having had it explained to me before, I don't fully understand the benefits of 3 phase, or the logistics involved in altering the existing fuse board etc. It's a dairy farm, so running vacuum pump, tank compressors etc. I mentioned it to our electrician couple of months ago and he put us off, saying it would be a huge amount of work for little gain? Supply coping currently, though house lights flicker when we start the parlour. Anyone willing to give me an idiots guide to 3 phase?!
As your sparky suggests, going to 3phase is quite a cost, and the main benefit for most farms is the ability to run big motors (my biggest is 35hp), so one of the questions for you is whether you want to do like vantage has done in his previous post and update part of your setup soon, like put a bigger bulk tank.
Of course you could avoid the huge cost of getting it installed by putting in a generator, although it seems like you could avoid most if they're upgrading the lines.