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Fantastic post totally agreeThis is such a common problem in farming today. I'm in my mid thirty's with 5 children under 10 and carrying the weight of the mixed family farm on my shoulders, and I accept that there are times that the hours are long........ BUT ultimately my wife and children are more important than the farm. I could easily get sucked into working day and night but I have made a decision not to. There are times we must work late and times that it can wait. My wife knows what it's like to feel like a single parent sometimes but she also knows that I will never work late just for the sake of it or out of habit. It is definitely a mindset change that your husband needs, and if possible an extra pair of hands it seems. I've just taken on a 16 year old apprentice, first person I've ever employed purely to try to get a better work life balance. Yes it will cost me but you can't put a price on family time. I'm a firm believer in the fact that if God rested on the seventh day how much more do we need to being mere humans so Sunday is our family's day to "catch up" with each other where only the essential work is done i.e. Feed the livestock. I don't have loads of time off but we do have days out and we even had four nights away at the start of august which was a real treat. I have the advantage of living on site but even if I didn't I'd get my backside home for tea each evening so we could eat as a family even if I then went back to work sometimes afterwards. I'll often stop from 18:00 - 20:00 to spend time with the kids and put them to bed then go back out till ten or eleven o clock, but again only if I NEED to. It's not a habit for me.
Sounds like your husband is in a rut, but a rut is just a grave with both ends knocked out.