lloyd
Member
- Location
- Herefordshire
How many cars and the month your planning for.
How should couples ask to hold their wedding on your land?
- Thread starter Lollypop
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kfpben
Member
- Location
- Mid Hampshire
I was approached at a weak moment to host a wedding last year through a ‘friend of a friend’.
Never, ever again. A field for 48 hours turned into a week, loads of people camping, ringing up constantly with questions about water, electric, locking/unlocking, taking delivery of stuff etc.
Furthermore it turned out it was a lesbian/trans wedding which I was not comfortable with hosting at all. The lanes were festooned with pride flags for days either side of the event. Maybe I’m old fashioned but my farm, my rules.
The final straw was it all took place between the Queen’s death and funeral. I suggested they might like to tone it down a bit, music off by 11pm etc. I was laughed at, and the whole village had to put up with YMCA until 3am at a time of national mourning. The village then of course sent their complaints to me!
Not the best £500 I’ve ever earned!
Never, ever again. A field for 48 hours turned into a week, loads of people camping, ringing up constantly with questions about water, electric, locking/unlocking, taking delivery of stuff etc.
Furthermore it turned out it was a lesbian/trans wedding which I was not comfortable with hosting at all. The lanes were festooned with pride flags for days either side of the event. Maybe I’m old fashioned but my farm, my rules.
The final straw was it all took place between the Queen’s death and funeral. I suggested they might like to tone it down a bit, music off by 11pm etc. I was laughed at, and the whole village had to put up with YMCA until 3am at a time of national mourning. The village then of course sent their complaints to me!
Not the best £500 I’ve ever earned!
- Location
- South West
As you said your field your rules, i presume you asked them to turn the music off (or very quiet) before the actual wedding? If so and they laughed I’d of said wedding revoked find somewhere else, you held all the cards in this deal right up until the evening of the wedding reception so you could of made them jump though plenty of hoops. I do feel for you though. Put it down to a life lesson, not all good deeds go rewarded.
Coximus
Member
i have fields with great views and get this from locals at least once a year sometimes more -
One its bloody inconvinient and it has to be when the field isnt in use - so basically not during hay growing (march - July) and its needed for grazing after, so
any compensation starts at lost crop value which could be the whole season if you want it at a daft time like June.
Two at least £1k for the ball ache factor of dealing with humans.
three at least a £2k deposit to clear up mess left as ive sene alot of horror shows
four get the stuff off the field within a week of the event (ideally two days) anything left after a week is mine and the marque cutup makes an excellent bale stack cover.
Unfortunately events like this usually just dont come with £££££ to compensate for the ball ache - and i mean proper ram charging nuts on a cold night level ball ache. Brides must keep clear of negotiations - I literally care less about the bumph of opinion about their drream location and view and how it plays out, than I do about the texture of rabbit droppings.
In my case ; 3 acre field exclusive use for 2 weeks was £4k with a £1k deposit (should of charged 2) didnt return the deposit as the marque was still in field a week after it should have gone, and the ground mats for the cars someone turned up a month later wanting them, didnt even call, bloke and wagon just turned up asking where they were. By this point they were already the property of the dairy unit down the road (Who highly rates them as a movable paddock highway ). ensure they agree to provide a skip for rubbish (amazing how much crap a wedding can create) - and Toilet block cabin too - their is no grace in witnessing a drunken women dressed in her sunday best clapping under a hedge.
One its bloody inconvinient and it has to be when the field isnt in use - so basically not during hay growing (march - July) and its needed for grazing after, so
any compensation starts at lost crop value which could be the whole season if you want it at a daft time like June.
Two at least £1k for the ball ache factor of dealing with humans.
three at least a £2k deposit to clear up mess left as ive sene alot of horror shows
four get the stuff off the field within a week of the event (ideally two days) anything left after a week is mine and the marque cutup makes an excellent bale stack cover.
Unfortunately events like this usually just dont come with £££££ to compensate for the ball ache - and i mean proper ram charging nuts on a cold night level ball ache. Brides must keep clear of negotiations - I literally care less about the bumph of opinion about their drream location and view and how it plays out, than I do about the texture of rabbit droppings.
In my case ; 3 acre field exclusive use for 2 weeks was £4k with a £1k deposit (should of charged 2) didnt return the deposit as the marque was still in field a week after it should have gone, and the ground mats for the cars someone turned up a month later wanting them, didnt even call, bloke and wagon just turned up asking where they were. By this point they were already the property of the dairy unit down the road (Who highly rates them as a movable paddock highway ). ensure they agree to provide a skip for rubbish (amazing how much crap a wedding can create) - and Toilet block cabin too - their is no grace in witnessing a drunken women dressed in her sunday best clapping under a hedge.
Coximus
Member
jesus £500 just doesnt cover the ball ache of a bride let alone two!
Just offer the land owner jus primae noctis