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Well suicide might seem like a way out but just consider the devastation left behind. Parents, children. family friends left heartbroken. Your own untapped potential wasted. There is always a better way.
Well suicide might seem like a way out but just consider the devastation left behind. Parents, children. family friends left heartbroken. Your own untapped potential wasted. There is always a better way.
It's very hard to ask for help if you are a cantankerous git such as myself
Yes as a matter of fact I am being treated for high blood pressure but I am now reading really low, just under average. When I went, eventually, it was 224/154 but all brought down with tablets and constant.
Even with that hiccup in health it didn't really alter my outlook on life, I know there are people far worse off than I so I take what I have and go with it. I spent an entire childhood watching my father dealing with kidney failure and heart problems and the depression he went through
Saw a fascinating Youtube video recently putting forward the idea that Jesus didn't exist, he was an invention of the Romans to subdue the Jews, who up to then were aggressive and at war, waiting for their prophecies to come to fruit with a Messiah to lead them into battle against the Romans. The Flavian emperors created a new prophecy with a Messiah more passive and submissive. They managed to get this into mainstream teachings and it worked, the Jews followed this new Messiah and gave up their war-like approach. Christians today have reacted to this theory by saying it doesn't matter whether he existed then or not, he still 'resides within me' and guides my life etc. Can't argue with that.Christianity ain’t easy street. It’s challenging. Knowing what is the right thing to do isnt easy at all. It’s a dilemma. Enrich yourself/put others first. Renounce worldly things / keep the economy going? Massive dilemmas with far reaching consequences for mankind and indeed the planet. Christ tried a radical new approach. Dead by 30 because of it. But he refreshed a lot of people who travailed and were heavily laden and liberated them to some extent from the fear and stranglehold of worldly things, death included. I don’t have the answers though. Never will have.
Saw a fascinating Youtube video recently putting forward the idea that Jesus didn't exist, he was an invention of the Romans to subdue the Jews, who up to then were aggressive and at war, waiting for their prophecies to come to fruit with a Messiah to lead them into battle against the Romans. The Flavian emperors created a new prophecy with a Messiah more passive and submissive. They managed to get this into mainstream teachings and it worked, the Jews followed this new Messiah and gave up their war-like approach. Christians today have reacted to this theory by saying it doesn't matter whether he existed then or not, he still 'resides within me' and guides my life etc. Can't argue with that.
Christianity is much like this now, heaven isn't a place, it's a concept. Jesus wasn't a person, but a guiding principle.
Now that ehic I can accept. In fact, if you look carefully, most religions espouse kindness and co-operation. It's just the zealots that choose to corrupt them in their own interest. I aspire to be a thoroughly good person and respect all religions so long as they respect me.Saw a fascinating Youtube video recently putting forward the idea that Jesus didn't exist, he was an invention of the Romans to subdue the Jews, who up to then were aggressive and at war, waiting for their prophecies to come to fruit with a Messiah to lead them into battle against the Romans. The Flavian emperors created a new prophecy with a Messiah more passive and submissive. They managed to get this into mainstream teachings and it worked, the Jews followed this new Messiah and gave up their war-like approach. Christians today have reacted to this theory by saying it doesn't matter whether he existed then or not, he still 'resides within me' and guides my life etc. Can't argue with that.
Christianity is much like this now, heaven isn't a place, it's a concept. Jesus wasn't a person, but a guiding principle.
Very good post! But if we believe in that Jesus was "real", some of his teaching was "new". The Old Testament and Jewish tradition was still very much "an eye for an eye" sort of thing, always settling old scores.I think he kind of said we had to break this tradition,or it would go on forever.When you think about it,most of the troubles in the World are caused by peoples trying to do this.Ah Ha; a Roman Geofry Archer?
There is some of the most sound psychological guidance and advice within most religious scriptures that have been recorded and passed down throughout history. For thousands and thousands of years men (and women) have observed and studied human kind and recorded what they have learned.
Personally I do believe that there was a real Jesus but his teachings were nothing new but old teachings that he clarified and lived by; he didn't just talk the talk, he walked the walk! I'm happy with both creation scripture and Darwin; one tells me who and why and the other tells me how.
There ya go; I have probably just got my self banned from most Christian churches, as well as the synagogue!
A wobble box is a strange and mythical contraption known only to owners of antique combine harvesters. When using the combine the wobble box will either be 'going' or 'gone.' The antique combine owner then spends their winter locked away rebuilding the wobble box ready for the next season. With the refurbished box fitted and harvest approaching the combine is extracted from the shed and 'run up' for 10 minutes to exorcise the rats by which time the wobble box will be 'on it's way out' again. Hope this helps.Wotz a wobble box? It's not rude, iz it?
Very good post! But if we believe in that Jesus was "real", some of his teaching was "new". The Old Testament and Jewish tradition was still very much "an eye for an eye" sort of thing, always settling old scores.I think he kind of said we had to break this tradition,or it would go on forever.When you think about it,most of the troubles in the World are caused by peoples trying to do this.
Now that ehic I can accept. In fact, if you look carefully, most religions espouse kindness and co-operation. It's just the zealots that choose to corrupt them in their own interest. I aspire to be a thoroughly good person and respect all religions so long as they respect me.
But where do you draw the line,when you are being bullied or wronged? How do you get it to stop? At the moment i have three problems that fills my waking day,and nights. A 12 month loan that i have paid off,but the loan company have added another £1400 on,just because they believe they can. (A defense has already been lodged on a CCJ for this) Another demand for £6750 from a finance broker who did absolutely nothing for me,and has later told me,"i didnt read the small print",and they are going to lodge another CCJ.And the worst of all,a phone call from Animal Health Trading Standards saying i will receive a letter in the post,inviting me to answer questions under caution about 5 calves that went to the licensed dead stock collector in 2017,for which they have no records for.(other than recorded in my own movement book,i have no records either as it was 4 years ago). This was two weeks ago,and i have still not received any letter,so 2 weeks of worry. Added to this,i have the day to day running of my farm,calving cows,doing crop work etc. And all the time,trying to keep a brave front on for the wife,so as not to worry her too much.Perhaps the teaching of self control and good anger management in our homes and schools could succeed, where religion has failed?
But where do you draw the line,when you are being bullied or wronged? How do you get it to stop? At the moment i have three problems that fills my waking day,and nights. A 12 month loan that i have paid off,but the loan company have added another £1400 on,just because they believe they can. (A defense has already been lodged on a CCJ for this) Another demand for £6750 from a finance broker who did absolutely nothing for me,and has later told me,"i didnt read the small print",and they are going to lodge another CCJ.And the worst of all,a phone call from Animal Health Trading Standards saying i will receive a letter in the post,inviting me to answer questions under caution about 5 calves that went to the licensed dead stock collector in 2017,for which they have no records for.(other than recorded in my own movement book,i have no records either as it was 4 years ago). This was two weeks ago,and i have still not received any letter,so 2 weeks of worry. Added to this,i have the day to day running of my farm,calving cows,doing crop work etc. And all the time,trying to keep a brave front on for the wife,so as not to worry her too much.
My wife is aware of everything,but i dont want to involve her any more than i have to to,It just makes her worry more.She is working hard now doing vaccinations(she is a fully qualified nurse with many years experience) and is getting her PIN back after first doing track and trace,then working for Public Health England. She needs to concentrate on her job and not get distracted by me and the farm. We also have our 15 year old son and 14 year old daughter to look after etc,help them through schooling and the teenage years. I get more angry if anything,which was in reply to your post.In particular with the Trading Standards,which i believe is being caused by one person.I dont think i have anything to answer for.My records are up to date and correct with CTS,and everything present and correct at my recent TB test and cattle identification inspection.I believe they have too much time on their hands,and not enough to do.What i would find helpful is someone who knows the very minutiae of the law in these respects.I am in the NFU legal assistance scheme but have found the solicitors they use fairly poor,and the costs are discretionary.Never thought of suicide,and never will.Have too much to live for and two lovely kids.I have mild depression in the mornings,and am a slow starter,but once into the day,it wares off,and am much more inclined to fight back.Just need to find the relevant people to help me do it.Alas, being something of a dumb townie, I have no knowledge that could be helpful to you for the problems that you have outlined but knowing the think-tank that TFF is, it is my betting that there are good folk on here that may be able to advise on best moves to make in those situations and please don't forget the hot-lines that are set up and waiting for calls from folk such as your self. Or any of us, for that matter!
I don't know your marital situation but with your wife being out of the loop you will be missing out on her strength, insite, and valuable input. How would you feel about bringing your wife in on the situation and possibly ringing one of the hotlines; where you will be able to find supportive contacts to work through those very challenging situations.
As you have struggled with the ongoing situations, has suicide appeared to hold any attractions for you, at all?
You may feel alone in all this but please believe me you are not.
Chris
Can you remember the calves going? If so were they stillborn or did they die before registration? As far as I know there is no requirement to notify anyone if they die before they are legally required to be recorded on BCMS. In that case they just go in your own records.But where do you draw the line,when you are being bullied or wronged? How do you get it to stop? At the moment i have three problems that fills my waking day,and nights. A 12 month loan that i have paid off,but the loan company have added another £1400 on,just because they believe they can. (A defense has already been lodged on a CCJ for this) Another demand for £6750 from a finance broker who did absolutely nothing for me,and has later told me,"i didnt read the small print",and they are going to lodge another CCJ.And the worst of all,a phone call from Animal Health Trading Standards saying i will receive a letter in the post,inviting me to answer questions under caution about 5 calves that went to the licensed dead stock collector in 2017,for which they have no records for.(other than recorded in my own movement book,i have no records either as it was 4 years ago). This was two weeks ago,and i have still not received any letter,so 2 weeks of worry. Added to this,i have the day to day running of my farm,calving cows,doing crop work etc. And all the time,trying to keep a brave front on for the wife,so as not to worry her too much.
Can you remember the calves going? If so were they stillborn or did they die before registration? As far as I know there is no requirement to notify anyone if they die before they are legally required to be recorded on BCMS. In that case they just go in your own records.