Dealing with depression - suicidal thoughts - Join the conversation (including helpline details)

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[Alicecow]

Found this thread 3 days ago,have read all pages from start.
For one who suffers from anxiety/depression, like myself,it is of help and comfort to read people's posts,especially with the farming aspect included.l have suffered more intensely for he last 20 yrs,but in hindsight this goes further back.
Had cbt ,am on antidepressants which have helped.
Just think some of use are born like this,of course,nurture plays a equal roll too.
Just slowly coming out of a dark 3 month period,of which past experience has helped me,had stupid thouhts too,but know how much pain this can leave behind,but that's at its worst.
A plus point of this last bout,was the realization that I was becoming addicted to prescription sleeping tablets,of which I have not taken for 10 weeks.suffered reverse insomnia for 3 nights,but now worth it.Determined
Never to take a sleeping tablet again,can't beat green tea.
This is my first post on this subject,but if it helps me and others,then great.
I am trying to be more open to others about mental health,l am sure this helps,even though some have little knowledge or time,but l am determined this will never break me,I must be strong and good for the wife and kids and parents .
Take care all.

Welcome
Thank you for sharing your story. Well done for your determination to overcome it
I'm sure your story will help others just the same as our posts have helped you.
It's good to know we're not alone in these things.
Hope you continue to recover.

 

[troubled]

Found this thread 3 days ago,have read all pages from start.
For one who suffers from anxiety/depression, like myself,it is of help and comfort to read people's posts,especially with the farming aspect included.l have suffered more intensely for he last 20 yrs,but in hindsight this goes further back.
Had cbt ,am on antidepressants which have helped.
Just think some of use are born like this,of course,nurture plays a equal roll too.
Just slowly coming out of a dark 3 month period,of which past experience has helped me,had stupid thouhts too,but know how much pain this can leave behind,but that's at its worst.
A plus point of this last bout,was the realization that I was becoming addicted to prescription sleeping tablets,of which I have not taken for 10 weeks.suffered reverse insomnia for 3 nights,but now worth it.Determined
Never to take a sleeping tablet again,can't beat green tea.
This is my first post on this subject,but if it helps me and others,then great.
I am trying to be more open to others about mental health,l am sure this helps,even though some have little knowledge or time,but l am determined this will never break me,I must be strong and good for the wife and kids and parents .
Take care all.

Don't try to be too strong as that can be the root of even more problems, I tried to hide my problems and keep strong, all it did was push my wife away and make her think I didn't love her anymore. Talking is the key to being strong, make sure the people that matter around you understand how you feel and why you feel that way would be my advice with my limited experience.

 

[Texel Tup]

Do we trust those who we love and who love us to actually understand? I've mostly found that total strangers bring to me what I need. I'm not sure why, it's just how it is.

Anonymity is often the easier route.

 

[Pieces_of_Eight]

Do we trust those who we love and who love us to actually understand? I've mostly found that total strangers bring to me what I need. I'm not sure why, it's just how it is.

Anonymity is often the easier route.

I completely agree. I've found it much easier to converse with total or semi-strangers, trying to talk to my other half was impossible to even contemplate.

 

[Alicecow]

Don't try to be too strong as that can be the root of even more problems, I tried to hide my problems and keep strong, all it did was push my wife away and make her think I didn't love her anymore. Talking is the key to being strong, make sure the people that matter around you understand how you feel and why you feel that way would be my advice with my limited experience.

Do we trust those who we love and who love us to actually understand? I've mostly found that total strangers bring to me what I need. I'm not sure why, it's just how it is.

Anonymity is often the easier route.

I completely agree. I've found it much easier to converse with total or semi-strangers, trying to talk to my other half was impossible to even contemplate.

You're all correct
It all depends on the individuals concerned.

 

[Pieces_of_Eight]

Not being able to talk was making my other half upset and angry, she began to feel that it was something about her which prevented me from discussing things with her.

Then I started to write it all down, but only showed her once I had finished writing.

 

[Old John]

I completely agree. I've found it much easier to converse with total or semi-strangers, trying to talk to my other half was impossible to even contemplate.

I found it far more useful to speak to a trained councellor, as they don't judge and they have been trained to help you with your problems. It might cost a bit, but I think that it was some of the best money I have ever spent.

 

[Pieces_of_Eight]

For me personally, the help came from just having someone there to listen, but someone I was happy to share with.

Usually this meant sharing with the dog, who always listened and never judged.

 

[Texel Tup]

Do we ever feel that when the whole world is determined to be contrary that an off topic smile sometimes helps? When I was going through a divorce, the severity of which explains why I've never re-married, someone gave me a book entitled 'The Graffiti file'. Every day I read a page and laughter helped, immensely.

Being as how the 'Off Topic' section seems to have disappeared, and for those in need of a smile, try this;

Having had my prostate examined by the doctor, he left and the nurse immediately entered the room.

She uttered the three words that no man ever wants to hear …. "Who was that"?
__________

Dear reader, if today is proving difficult, try to smile, just once. It's all so often no more than perspective.

 

[Flossie]

Do we ever feel that when the whole world is determined to be contrary that an off topic smile sometimes helps? When I was going through a divorce, the severity of which explains why I've never re-married, someone gave me a book entitled 'The Graffiti file'. Every day I read a page and laughter helped, immensely.

Being as how the 'Off Topic' section seems to have disappeared, and for those in need of a smile, try this;

Having had my prostate examined by the doctor, he left and the nurse immediately entered the room.

She uttered the three words that no man ever wants to hear …. "Who was that"?
__________

Dear reader, if today is proving difficult, try to smile, just once. It's all so often no more than perspective.

Off Topic is still there......scroll down to extras on the forum home page Threads in Off Topic don't show up when you click on New Posts

 

[llamedos]

The farmer ploughing a lonely furrow in his battle with depression

http://www.itv.com/news/anglia/2017...-lonely-furrow-in-his-battle-with-depression/

David Ottley was a happily married father living with his family on their own farm in north Norfolk.

Business was good - but the work was isolated and he began to struggle.

Now two and a half years into his battle with depression, he has decided to tell his story during Mental Health Awareness Week.

Please see link for video.

 

[llamedos]

While a illness like MS & ME may be described as physical, they can and do bring along mental health issues.
So the doctors are correct imo to treat these symptoms if necessary, to help the general wellbeing of the patient.

 

[betweenthelines]

I've been on flouxetine for months but keep having a "bad" week after a few good weeks so my GP has switched me to Venlafaxine. Anyone got any thoughts on this-possible side effects and will it help me.

TIA.

 

[llamedos]

Yes but once you get hooked once you go done that slop.
You are convinced by that doc your mentally ill. It's not a treatment to follow to help you have a healthy mind.
Oh dear I have depression there must be something wrong with me.
Rather than I have a physical illness which needs treating.

Giving happy pillsIs no solution.
Even concerning it is no solution:
I saw GP's behind closed doors the other day.
Patients are physically ill.
Rather than curing their bad knee or what ever illness it ends up being a therapy section they need.

Rather than self coping reading a good book or playing some nice music. If you must a relaxation tape. But that leaves you open to others manipulating you. Giving you false information about yourself.
Telling you what you are when unless they have they gift of a fortune cookie they know nothing. They have no right.

You environment is more likely the problem.
If you are payed for a mobile phone mast next to your farm house.
Or a wind turbine in the field.

You may not hear it.
But it buggers up the way you think.

Then I am grateful I had a very good GP and saw equally good Neurologists.

 

[troubled]

That's a very broad brush stroke you have there lyme disease person.

 

[Blod]

From experience, physical hardship, whether from an accident, virus or infection can and often does cause a change in attitude or perception of what we are capable of, our self esteem or our relationships. Even having a cold can make some of us grumpy! Therefore it seems wholly correct to at least be aware that we might need mental support if we or someone we care about, are wounded or otherwise less able and that it isn't a sign of weakness to want or need it.

To me, this particular thread is wholly about sharing and understanding each other and I am full of admiration for those who contribute.

 

[Flat 10]

I have recently found out that a friend of mine has been going through a really sh!t time (relationship, depression) and its really shocked me (I knew it was bad but not that bad) so if you know anyone who is having a tough time call in for a cup of tea and chat, don't put it off

 

[Alicecow]

I have recently found out that a friend of mine has been going through a really sh!t time (relationship, depression) and its really shocked me (I knew it was bad but not that bad) so if you know anyone who is having a tough time call in for a cup of tea and chat, don't put it off

Absolutely right, and don't forget to bring a cake with you

 

[JP1]

I wanted to share this as circulated by Chris Riddle, Royal Cornwall Show / RABI and Elizabeth Ottley

My apologies if this has been covered on the thread before

http://www.itv.com/news/anglia/2017...-lonely-furrow-in-his-battle-with-depression/