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<blockquote data-quote="honeyend" data-source="post: 7142414" data-attributes="member: 23108"><p>My grown up children have now left home, but when they were here we lived separately, they have their own room/bathroom and unless it was a family meal bought and cooked their own food, they had their own lives and didn't have to fit in with ours. We actually built our house so there are separate zones, so if they came back we could all share without getting each other's way, with just one communal area. I think it's hard for mums to let go, them spend twenty plus years feeding you and generally looking after you, and then they feel redundant. </p><p> Not getting a wage would worry me, there is the pension aspect, and NI to think about, the whole virus thing has made it important that you have a record of earnings so you get support if needed.</p><p> My mother who was an excellent mother was a rubbish grandmother, I think it was because her mum had seven children, and she just was too tired to be bothered with grandchildren, so my mum only wanted them when there was an opportunity to show them off, but was of no practical help. Perhaps if you gave them a 'job' they would be less likely to interfere. I know my friend who regularly baby sits for her children has been grateful to lock down and its given her so much more free time, I get the feeling that she will be reluctant to be so available again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="honeyend, post: 7142414, member: 23108"] My grown up children have now left home, but when they were here we lived separately, they have their own room/bathroom and unless it was a family meal bought and cooked their own food, they had their own lives and didn't have to fit in with ours. We actually built our house so there are separate zones, so if they came back we could all share without getting each other's way, with just one communal area. I think it's hard for mums to let go, them spend twenty plus years feeding you and generally looking after you, and then they feel redundant. Not getting a wage would worry me, there is the pension aspect, and NI to think about, the whole virus thing has made it important that you have a record of earnings so you get support if needed. My mother who was an excellent mother was a rubbish grandmother, I think it was because her mum had seven children, and she just was too tired to be bothered with grandchildren, so my mum only wanted them when there was an opportunity to show them off, but was of no practical help. Perhaps if you gave them a 'job' they would be less likely to interfere. I know my friend who regularly baby sits for her children has been grateful to lock down and its given her so much more free time, I get the feeling that she will be reluctant to be so available again. [/QUOTE]
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