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<blockquote data-quote="Overby" data-source="post: 7598139" data-attributes="member: 111610"><p>Our family grew up like this. I know times were different back in the 70s / 80s but my grandfather was caught up in the whole "being at work all the time makes me better than you". Utterly deluded. It didn't matter a jot that half the work was utterly unproductive. My old man and uncle were brought up in that environment and it was considered 'the norm'. I was always looked on with disdain as I didn't want to be wandering about aimlessly, doing jobs at half speed to make them last, or doing so many things none were done efficiently. If that's what someone wants to do...fine...but don't expect everyone else to have to follow. Nobody minds hard work as long as there's an end result they're happy with.</p><p>Maybe the chap in the OP enjoys what he's doing and doesn't see a problem? Maybe what he's doing is building up a nest egg or future for his family and he will eventually ease off? Maybe he's running round like a headless chicken achieving what could be done in half the time with better management?</p><p> It sounds like you have a good relationship if you're asking these questions so I doubt he's one of the 'hide in the fields and dodge the domestic duties' types....of which there's many.</p><p></p><p>You need to have a chat, as suggested, and see if there's a halfway house, or at least a mutual understanding of why this is happening and if it's worth it.</p><p></p><p>Good luck. Not always easy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Overby, post: 7598139, member: 111610"] Our family grew up like this. I know times were different back in the 70s / 80s but my grandfather was caught up in the whole "being at work all the time makes me better than you". Utterly deluded. It didn't matter a jot that half the work was utterly unproductive. My old man and uncle were brought up in that environment and it was considered 'the norm'. I was always looked on with disdain as I didn't want to be wandering about aimlessly, doing jobs at half speed to make them last, or doing so many things none were done efficiently. If that's what someone wants to do...fine...but don't expect everyone else to have to follow. Nobody minds hard work as long as there's an end result they're happy with. Maybe the chap in the OP enjoys what he's doing and doesn't see a problem? Maybe what he's doing is building up a nest egg or future for his family and he will eventually ease off? Maybe he's running round like a headless chicken achieving what could be done in half the time with better management? It sounds like you have a good relationship if you're asking these questions so I doubt he's one of the 'hide in the fields and dodge the domestic duties' types....of which there's many. You need to have a chat, as suggested, and see if there's a halfway house, or at least a mutual understanding of why this is happening and if it's worth it. Good luck. Not always easy. [/QUOTE]
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