Christoph1945
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a mill. It smashes who grain to large dust
And what, may I ask, do you do with the large dust and how much large dust do you finish up with?
a mill. It smashes who grain to large dust
Time for a talk with your wife.so I moved up here as my wife wanted to go back to her family farm, I had always dreamt of having my own farm and had no idea he would be so ignorant towards change/ hard to work with.
My brother in law left the family farm for a job in the city for the reasons I mentioned, but his parents are convinced it’s nothing to do with them and he would love to come back to the farm.
I was definitely happier working with other farms, and it felt more rewarding. If I left I feel like I would have wasted my only opportunity to get on the farming ladder. But now I’m starting to feel like what’s the point if you don’t enjoy life anymore.
And what, may I ask, do you do with the large dust and how much large dust do you finish up with?
As a complete aside, my son was working for a large pig operation, they were milling a 29 tonne lorry load; every 20 minutes
Bluddy hell!
She isn’t happy about the whole situation l, but she can look past more of the issues than I can as it’s her family and she can go to work for half the week and get away from it all.Good morning Dave.
Sorry to read of your present situation and all the stress that it must be inflicting on you and probably on your marriage. What is your wife's take on the situation?
Sounds like it's up to you to do something about it.She isn’t happy about the whole situation l, but she can look past more of the issues than I can as it’s her family and she can go to work for half the week and get away from it all.
To be honest it not the money that’s the main issue, it’s the constant arguments and being told everything I do is wrong, it’s just hard to work.
Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Run away. I can see the farm being left to the son after you both do the work for years.She isn’t happy about the whole situation l, but she can look past more of the issues than I can as it’s her family and she can go to work for half the week and get away from it all.
To be honest it not the money that’s the main issue, it’s the constant arguments and being told everything I do is wrong, it’s just hard to work.
She isn’t happy about the whole situation l, but she can look past more of the issues than I can as it’s her family and she can go to work for half the week and get away from it all.
To be honest it not the money that’s the main issue, it’s the constant arguments and being told everything I do is wrong, it’s just hard to work.
I regularly vent to some friends through text which helps no end, but I’ve no friends here, the entire family is a bit secluded in that way and never goes to any social events etc.A great many people have a sort of built-in mental block to any suggestion, of any shape or form, and will reject out of hand anything that we may put forward to them; even if it is good and beneficial for them.
Do you have any farming friends, with whom you can chat about your ideas and suggestions that you are thinking will benefit the farm?
Although an idea may be yours, do you think that the parents may be more receptive if they thought that it was their daughter who came up with the ideas?
I regularly vent to some friends through text which helps no end, but I’ve no friends here, the entire family is a bit secluded in that way and never goes to any social events etc.
you don’t know how much I miss just going to the pub for laugh with some friends now and again, if I do get a chance to head to my home county it helps no end clear my head.
I used to get back every 6 weeks but it’s getting less and so far I’ve only managed to see my parents and friends once this year.
Doesn’t matter whose idea it is, it’s a bad one as it involves change. I have managed to get a few things changed over the years, but it’s such hard work. If there is something every farm I’ve worked on has done over the years, the response I will get will be “oh well that won’t work here” or “ the way we have done it has always worked fine”
Thank you for everyone’s responses so far, you are really helping. I’d never really considered moving off the farm too much, but that’s seems to be the general consensus on here.
Indeed. There are always times in any business where folks really could throttle the living daylights out of one another. But you have to look at the average. Best not to make a decision at a low point but let that pass and make a carefully considered decision over time. As it is there’s no real rush. But once the decision is made it will possibly be irreversible so be sure about what you really want.On the one hand…
But beware of knee jerk reactions/ throwing the baby out with the bath water, kind of things
Indeed. There are always times in any business where folks really could throttle the living daylights out of one another. But you have to look at the average. Best not to make a decision at a low point but let that pass and make a carefully considered decision over time. As it is there’s no real rush. But once the decision is made it will possibly be irreversible so be sure about what you really want.
Indeed. There are always times in any business where folks really could throttle the living daylights out of one another. But you have to look at the average. Best not to make a decision at a low point but let that pass and make a carefully considered decision over time. As it is there’s no real rush. But once the decision is made it will possibly be irreversible so be sure about what you really want.
I would say I want to sell up and quit, circa 50 days per year.
Not the best but not catastrophic… although for 25 of those 50 it does seem that way
Same here and so did I.Ah Ha! The Wisdom of Solomon! You are starting to sound like a marriage guidance counsellor, but certainly good advice, in a multitude of cases and situations.
The Jewish Kabbalists teach that we should never react to situations but rather pause and then respond constructively. As a lifelong reactionary, I learned the hard way.
Why can't you just go to the pub?you don’t know how much I miss just going to the pub for laugh with some friends now and again, if I do get a chance to head to my home county it helps no end clear my head.
I used to get back every 6 weeks but it’s getting less and so far I’ve only managed to see my parents and friends once this year.
And what if it does?Drop in on the parents. FFS it's only a farm and it won't break without you....