money problems

[rob1]

how come a canny pm you?

Not sure will check

 

[grumpy]

Not sure will check

i meant azzimuff,but im a friendly sort so will pm you

 

[rob1]

i meant azzimuff,but im a friendly sort so will pm you

Thats what snow white says!

 

[GenuineRisk]

As he has two teenage kids living with them, then I would guess a fair bit if his income gets allocated to them! Also don't know what liabilities he still has towards his first wife. So no, £30k isn't a fortune if you take into account potential other expenses. It's not down to you to change your mind about going - that's a decision he has to make. How did she find out about his debts? If she opened a statement in error - well, we could all do that. If she's searching online for info, slightly different story. But, there again, it's her farm and in the same position, I sure as heck would want to know my OH's finances as she has more to lose!

 

[Sussex Martin]

how come a canny pm you?

He's probably blocked you, same as everyone else

 

[grumpy]

He's probably blocked you, same as everyone else

nah im 75% loved 25% hated,

 

[WalkingScarecrow]

Serious marriage problem if she will talk to you but not to her husband. You'd do them a favour if you told them both to start talking pronto.

100%. Let them sort it out, marriage is about trust in each other and what you do together. Telling your other halfs best mate about secrets is a rocky,downhill road.

 

[rob1]

Its very interesting to see different viewpoints, either see her point about her concerns about him but also the legit concerns about her position of having a lot to lose, to the view its not her business to talk to me about their problems. Dont know what i would do in her shoes

 

[Y Fan Wen]

not sure how I would react if I felt my wife was keeping tabs on me.

OH certainly keeps tabs on me, keeps me on the straight and narrow!!!
At a farm finance lecture I went to once, the instructor said "Your wife may not know you have a mistress, but your bank manager does"!!