I never felt more out of my depth than when we came home with our 1st. I remember a friend of my wife visiting and on seeing the chaos and the exhaustion on both our faces, she gave my wife a hug and said " don't worry- it will get easier!". And it did, and we had 2 more. None of them were straightforward. My wife spent weeks in hospital, as did the children. We're they my most profitable farming years? No. Was all the work done as I would have liked? No. Put some time and effort into raising your family and they will pay it back tenfold!
New parents
- Thread starter K39
- Start date
- Location
- South wales
Try and make time believe me it flys by only seems last week my son was born he’s 2 already
- Location
- cornwall
Oh yes, the fluffy world we see on telly where everyone has weeks off for babies or deaths or “to sort their head out” and the outside world just stops!
Meanwhile, reality is life carries on and animals need feeding etc. do what you can, but do not feel guilty for carrying on trying to earn money and looking after things
- Location
- Quebec, Canada
My husband took a few hours off work to go to the hospital when I had the babies. When the nurse said it’llbe a while yet, he went to work for a few hours and came back. Never took a minute off work after that. He saw the children briefly in the mornings and they were often in bed at night when he came in from work. I got up at night and in the mornings with them. He turned out to be a great father and our sons (30 and 32 yrs old) adore him.
- Location
- Scot Borders
How you getting on now @K39?
First few weeks are a nightmare but it does get easier. I spent more time in the house than I ever imagined possible at the start, with both our kids. MIL was a waste of space, and OH was determined not to have to rely on my parents for whatever reason. Animals always got fed sometimes at very unusual times of the day but nothing ever suffered. Got a great relationship with OH and teenagers. Do whatsoever needs done home wise, you won’t regret it
First few weeks are a nightmare but it does get easier. I spent more time in the house than I ever imagined possible at the start, with both our kids. MIL was a waste of space, and OH was determined not to have to rely on my parents for whatever reason. Animals always got fed sometimes at very unusual times of the day but nothing ever suffered. Got a great relationship with OH and teenagers. Do whatsoever needs done home wise, you won’t regret it
traadilooar
Member
- Location
- Isle of Man
Surely the best way is a wet nurse for 2 years then to the nanny, boarding at Eton, fetch them home for a weekend at 14 to discuss Oxford or Cambridge, then a summer in India with them at 22 and off to sandhurst then the hussars with them until 30?
- Location
- Scot Borders
Suggested boarding school to my OH several times but while tempted never followed through
glasshouse
Member
- Location
- lothians
I was told one night it was
My first turn for nightshift.
I tended the bairn about 4 am, then had to load lambs at 6 didnt get much sleep
I lifted a metal gate with another gate within it which wasnt latched which swung round and virtually chopped an inch off my middle finger.
Spent the whole day in hospital and eventually got it stitched back on at about 7pm
I never got asked again
My first turn for nightshift.
I tended the bairn about 4 am, then had to load lambs at 6 didnt get much sleep
I lifted a metal gate with another gate within it which wasnt latched which swung round and virtually chopped an inch off my middle finger.
Spent the whole day in hospital and eventually got it stitched back on at about 7pm
I never got asked again