What to do when the cows are gone

[Jdunn55]

Firstly, sorry I keep disappearing on here without replying, particularly to those who have sent messages, I do appreciate it, Im just not up to speaking to anyone at the moment, I will get back to you at some point but it may take a while, sorry

Anyway, everyone around me is pushing for me to sell the cows, and I'm too tired to fight anymore. I don't want to sell my cows but I've can't carry on as I am and I can't see anything changing

Everyone keeps promising there's some sort of amazing light at the end of the tunnel once they're sold, and they keep saying I can do whatever I want afterwards

But what do I want? I can't work it out, I've never thought about doing anything except having my own herd, I've never wanted anything else in fact.
So what do I do when they're gone?

I have no money to my name and don't have any a-levels just 9 gcse's including English and maths plus A*'s in chemistry biology and geography
But that's all sort of irrelevant if I don't know what I want

I'm pretty sure that once they're gone I don't want to do anything farming related but how do you figure out what you want to do? I'm 23 now so have missed the a-level boat and therefore university etc so as far as I can see it I'm back to minimum wage stacking shelves in tesco type jobs? I can't see how that's a light at the end of the tunnel as everyone is suggesting

Any ideas?

 

[tepapa]

At 23 your probably eligible as a mature student and reduced fees if you wanted to go back to studying.

Although until the tw@ts at RT stop you milking I wouldn't give up your dream just yet. Good luck with your future plans either way.

 

[nonemouse]

You’re still young at 23, and by no means are you too old to think of further or higher education. I left school at 16 and worked on the farm for a couple of years still ended up getting a degree.

 

[KennyO]

Do you like being inside or outside? Do you like driving?
You could get your hgv. Probably get a labouring job ok.
Drive for a silage gang for the summer.
Just do anything to keep yourself busy and work out a plan.

 

[spin cycle]

Firstly, sorry I keep disappearing on here without replying, particularly to those who have sent messages, I do appreciate it, Im just not up to speaking to anyone at the moment, I will get back to you at some point but it may take a while, sorry

Anyway, everyone around me is pushing for me to sell the cows, and I'm too tired to fight anymore. I don't want to sell my cows but I've can't carry on as I am and I can't see anything changing

Everyone keeps promising there's some sort of amazing light at the end of the tunnel once they're sold, and they keep saying I can do whatever I want afterwards

But what do I want? I can't work it out, I've never thought about doing anything except having my own herd, I've never wanted anything else in fact.
So what do I do when they're gone?

I have no money to my name and don't have any a-levels just 9 gcse's including English and maths plus A*'s in chemistry biology and geography
But that's all sort of irrelevant if I don't know what I want

I'm pretty sure that once they're gone I don't want to do anything farming related but how do you figure out what you want to do? I'm 23 now so have missed the a-level boat and therefore university etc so as far as I can see it I'm back to minimum wage stacking shelves in tesco type jobs? I can't see how that's a light at the end of the tunnel as everyone is suggesting

Any ideas?

tough lines lad....but...getting rid of a herd may not be final.....being so young it may just be au revoir

 

[Derrick Hughes]

It's hard a 23 to know what you want
I fell on a few things in later life that I really love doing , i wish I had started when I left school , but I needed farming experience to do one of those
I sold all my cattle at 50 , don't regret it for 2 seconds

 

[Holsteinfriesian90]

Firstly, sorry I keep disappearing on here without replying, particularly to those who have sent messages, I do appreciate it, Im just not up to speaking to anyone at the moment, I will get back to you at some point but it may take a while, sorry

Anyway, everyone around me is pushing for me to sell the cows, and I'm too tired to fight anymore. I don't want to sell my cows but I've can't carry on as I am and I can't see anything changing

Everyone keeps promising there's some sort of amazing light at the end of the tunnel once they're sold, and they keep saying I can do whatever I want afterwards

But what do I want? I can't work it out, I've never thought about doing anything except having my own herd, I've never wanted anything else in fact.
So what do I do when they're gone?

I have no money to my name and don't have any a-levels just 9 gcse's including English and maths plus A*'s in chemistry biology and geography
But that's all sort of irrelevant if I don't know what I want

I'm pretty sure that once they're gone I don't want to do anything farming related but how do you figure out what you want to do? I'm 23 now so have missed the a-level boat and therefore university etc so as far as I can see it I'm back to minimum wage stacking shelves in tesco type jobs? I can't see how that's a light at the end of the tunnel as everyone is suggesting

Any ideas?

I’m really sorry to hear this.

 

[Milkcow365]

Why not get a job with a semen company as your the most clued up person on pedigrees and that sort of stuff that I’ve ever come across!

 

[Jdunn55]

At 23 your probably eligible as a mature student and reduced fees if you wanted to go back to studying.

Although until the tw@ts at RT stop you milking I wouldn't give up your dream just yet. Good luck with your future plans either way.

Red tractor is just sort of the final straw, there's more to it than them

I don't know if I want to go back to studying, I hated school and hated ag college even more. The only thing that got me through them was the thought that I'd be me milking my own cows at some point.

 

[Jdunn55]

You’re still young at 23, and by no means are you too old to think of further or higher education. I left school at 16 and worked on the farm for a couple of years still ended up getting a degree.

Perhaps, I just don't know if that's what I want either, don't know what I would want to study if at all. The thought of being 24/25 in a classroom full of 18/19 years olds is strange though

 

[Jdunn55]

Do you like being inside or outside? Do you like driving?
You could get your hgv. Probably get a labouring job ok.
Drive for a silage gang for the summer.
Just do anything to keep yourself busy and work out a plan.

Truly no idea what I like. I hate driving though. I fall asleep after an hour or two so hgv/contracting probably isn't for me.

 

[Jdunn55]

Why not get a job with a semen company as your the most clued up person on pedigrees and that sort of stuff that I’ve ever come across!

Thankyou, but once my cows are gone I don't think I could bring myself to work with cows/farming ever again really.

 

[Jdunn55]

I’m really sorry to hear this.

So am I, everyone is saying enough is enough though. Just want to dissappear atm!

 

[Beef farmer]

Go and see the world, then re evaluate.
You'd make a great herdsman for someone, work with cows without the stress

 

[dinderleat]

Have you looked at taking your best cows with you to another farm as a herdsman possibly

 

[Jdunn55]

Go and see the world, then re evaluate.
You'd make a great herdsman for someone, work with cows without the stress

How? I have no money

I just don't think I can go back to working with cows when mine are gone, they'd just be a constant reminder of mine and how I failed and then lost them

 

[Rich_ard]

Firstly, sorry I keep disappearing on here without replying, particularly to those who have sent messages, I do appreciate it, Im just not up to speaking to anyone at the moment, I will get back to you at some point but it may take a while, sorry

Anyway, everyone around me is pushing for me to sell the cows, and I'm too tired to fight anymore. I don't want to sell my cows but I've can't carry on as I am and I can't see anything changing

Everyone keeps promising there's some sort of amazing light at the end of the tunnel once they're sold, and they keep saying I can do whatever I want afterwards

But what do I want? I can't work it out, I've never thought about doing anything except having my own herd, I've never wanted anything else in fact.
So what do I do when they're gone?

I have no money to my name and don't have any a-levels just 9 gcse's including English and maths plus A*'s in chemistry biology and geography
But that's all sort of irrelevant if I don't know what I want

I'm pretty sure that once they're gone I don't want to do anything farming related but how do you figure out what you want to do? I'm 23 now so have missed the a-level boat and therefore university etc so as far as I can see it I'm back to minimum wage stacking shelves in tesco type jobs? I can't see how that's a light at the end of the tunnel as everyone is suggesting

Any ideas?

Who is everyone around you? Are they stakeholders or investors? Why listen to them if you're happy doing what your doing?

 

[Beef farmer]

How? I have no money

I just don't think I can go back to working with cows when mine are gone, they'd just be a constant reminder of mine and how I failed and then lost them

If you sell up, you won't have a few k to your name?
Seeing the world, means get on a plane, and work and travel. See the world better by working than just travelling around.
My time in the outback is a very fond memory, and one that I would recommend to anyone. You'll certainly see a different view to any tourist!

 

[Beef farmer]

How much longer have you got on your tenancy?

 

[tepapa]

How? I have no money

I just don't think I can go back to working with cows when mine are gone, they'd just be a constant reminder of mine and how I failed and then lost them

I wouldn't see it as a failure more a stepping stone in life.