Sudden loss

[Yale]

Sad to hear of your loss.

I often think that family farms are just that,not like average families.

We work together every day and because of that it is a greater shock if someone is suddenly taken.

Strange because even though I work every day with my father we are not that close as such.However if he was not around it would leave a big hole.

Take care.

 

[oakleaf]

My dad went out for a walk around the farm with the dogs one evening years ago and never came back. Sister found him dead in the field. lt was of course a huge shock but a much better ending than his sibling who suffered a decade of dementia and didnt recognise anyone in the last few years.
Condolences to you @farmerm

 

[nick...]

I’m sorry for your loss
nick...

 

[JP1]

All I could have written has been expressed already @farmerm

So sorry for your loss and my sincerest condolences

 

[Sid]

Sorry to hear of your loss.

If you need any assistance @FCN are an ear and a valuable source of help and information at a time like this.

Regards
Sid

 

[JD-Kid]

sorry for yer loss
only found out a day ago my mate thats a vet great guy died a week a go just out night shooting and had a heart attack

 

[Friesianfan]

Sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mum in 2019. Was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. (Still is). I’ve no easy words I’m afraid, just take it easy on yourself.

 

[Cowslip]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Similar happened here nearly 2 yrs ago and finding this forum was the best thing as it has helped me. I should have spoken to someone properly at the time but with a farm to run and a 2 yr old son it just didn't happen. I find reading things on here helps.

 

[farmerm]

Just a quick thank you for all your kind responses. It is much appreciated.

 

[dinderleat]

Just a quick thank you for all your kind responses. It is much appreciated.

How’s things @farmerm

 

[farmerm]

How’s things @farmerm

We are coping OK thanks

 

[Av Gorritt]

Speaking as one who is probably a lot nearer to the end than most on here , I have to say that if I had a choice , that would be the way to go - difficult for the ones that are left but I'll bet they wouldn't wish a prolonged , troubled exit for either themselves or anyone else come to that .

 

[spitfire]

Not sure how to find words today. My Father dropped down dead yesterday, no warning. One moment he was walking with mum and the next he was gone.

Finding a strange comfort in watching the softly falling snow today

Keep safe

sorry to hear of your loss its not easy but its better to think of the good times and you will never be alone .

 

[Av Gorritt]

My mother went similarly , one minute she was at a party , next minute she died in my arms , Dad was just opposite , lost his marbles a bit, spent time in hospital in Liverpool , where he would certainly have died if he'd been left there .
"Sans teeth , sans eyes , sans taste , sans everything " Most of all I believe, is "Sans dignity "- even with the best will in the world . I've visited relatives in care homes , sitting round the room in chairs looking like zombies , and just waiting to die . Not for me if I can avoid it .

 

[Robt]

I am very sorry to hear this. Sadly recently i have witnessed many a once great man, stuck in bed with dementia unable to dress or feed themselves... Its heart breaking and I am sure they can feel it. Sometimes a quick end is better. The hurt and pain will slowly change over time. Talk and remember. If you can, try to laugh. What he taught you will never fade.

 

[Netherfield]

I am very sorry to hear this. Sadly recently i have witnessed many a once great man, stuck in bed with dementia unable to dress or feed themselves... Its heart breaking and I am sure they can feel it. Sometimes a quick end is better. The hurt and pain will slowly change over time. Talk and remember. If you can, try to laugh. What he taught you will never fade.

Lost mum to a tumour in 02, over two years went from a fit 80 year old to a 1 year old unable to do or recognise anything. I miss mum's love and attention.

Lost dad 18 months ago at 95 to a Triple A, was talking at 8 am, died at 4 pm, no pain or anything just went to sleep and never woke again. I miss dad's knowledge of almost everything and his entrepreneurial skill.

 

[shumungus]

Lost mum to a tumour in 02, over two years went from a fit 80 year old to a 1 year old unable to do or recognise anything. I miss mum's love and attention.

Lost dad 18 months ago at 95 to a Triple A, was talking at 8 am, died at 4 pm, no pain or anything just went to sleep and never woke again. I miss dad's knowledge of almost everything and his entrepreneurial skill.

What a lovely way to remember your parents.

 

[shumungus]

We are coping OK thanks

@farmerm I went through something similar 20 years ago. Now that you have had a little time you should comfort yourself that your father had a lovely exit, I couldn't think of a nicer way to go. An ending as good as that is all any of us could wish for. It will get easier with time.

 

[Princess Pooper]

Sorry to read of your loss. My Dad dropped down dead at the age of 63, on his own in the local bank, waiting to go into a meeting. It is hard to comprehend and even now I wonder what his final thoughts were. Felt so very sorry for the poor staff member who found him.

On the other hand he would have made a dreadful patient.

You will think a lot of the things that were left unsaid and the speed of his demise. Many years later you will still think of him and what he would have made of various situations. I found I wanted to talk about Dad, so feel free to chunter away on here if it helps.

 

[Netherfield]

Just lost the Mother in law on the 10th, went in hospital with a urine infection, somewhat got over that and caught Covid off another patient.

Although cause of death on the certificate was primarily Covid, her Kidneys were giving up,her heart was failing. Grand age of 95 though.