What do you do when you're absolutely exhausted?

[Cowmansam]

There’s plenty of farms where the sons are pretty much in this situation I know of 4 just on the top of my head so I believe him I know off 2 men up and n biddulph moor haven’t left the farm in over 35 years father never let them now there scared to my grandfather goes and checks them and picks up things they need sounds exactly like this situation except it’s 30 years down the line

 

[Highland Mule]

There’s plenty of farms where the sons are pretty much in this situation I know of 4 just on the top of my head so I believe him I know off 2 men up and n biddulph moor haven’t left the farm in over 35 years father never let them now there scared to my grandfather goes and checks them and picks up things they need sounds exactly like this situation except it’s 30 years down the line

If you know of lads in domestic slavery then I'd hope that you would report them to the relevant authorities.

 

[Cowmansam]

If you know of lads in domestic slavery then I'd hope that you would report them to the relevant authorities.

If they won’t help themselves you can’t help them you send the authorities round and they wouldn’t say anything for fear of dad

 

[Highland Mule]

If they won’t help themselves you can’t help them you send the authorities round and they wouldn’t say anything for fear of dad

Sounds tragic if true, but I couldn't stand back and not do something - and keep doing it until they are freed. Social services, then police and then ...?

 

[Bald n Grumpy]

Sounds tragic if true, but I couldn't stand back and not do something - and keep doing it until they are freed. Social services, then police and then ...?

It's a mental hold not a physical one though isn't it?

 

[Adeptandy]

Get out of bed and start again.........well, that's how it feels

 

[betweenthelines]

If they won’t help themselves you can’t help them you send the authorities round and they wouldn’t say anything for fear of dad

You think that the police and social workers are unable to tell when someone is hiding something? It's what they are trained to do.

The reason I'm suspicious about the OP is that there are too many inconsistencies in what he says.

He & Brother get no wages, but they are paying to set up a vending machine operation.
Brother Improved the Dairy herd-that must have been with business money, or the wages they don't get?
Spoilt sister at home- but she has two jobs.
Other sister is married (to a farmer apparently) Does the OP never speak to BIL?
20 odd pages in we find there's another relative with land. This one is either ten or twenty miles away?
OP sold his car 'cos he only did 70 miles in a year checking on the youngstock-70 miles when the return journey must be 20 or 40 miles? Did he walk part of the way?
OP never speaks to anyone off the farm? So how did the milk vending business get set up?
"We" are paying towards a mortgage
OP claims in another thread that his father has "got a solicitor acting against him"
Bought 2 foragers in the past few years and paid repair bills on them but do all the silage as bales
etc. etc. etc.

A lot of his comments on this thread are almost identical to those he put on the "Succession planning" thread, (as is the advice offered) but perhaps those didn't get enough attention so he started another thread on the Dairy section -where incidently the FCN is heavily advertised if he really wants help.

Fake, fantasist, attention seeker or a wind up? I don't really care.

But the true story is definitely not what he is putting on here.

 

[betweenthelines]

That’s fine but why take it out on rob91

If he is real (which I doubt) several posters have given advice, there's a support network advertised on this page, and at the end of the day the OP is the only one who can change things.

If as I suspect, he's on a wind up, it's in very poor taste as many on here have been in similar situations.

 

[Bald Rick]

I'm very close to calling stumps on this thread as I am unsure what further can be achieved before it decends in to a slanging match.

If true, the OP is under the influence of coercive control and should report it as such.
Collectively, the advice had been giving but only you @Rob91 Can act on it

 

[betweenthelines]

Same advice was given to the OP on another thread

 

[Bald Rick]

Same advice was given to the OP on another thread

Then I think we've come as far as we need too