Watty
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Yes they do. Or they did me and my doctor warned me they would. Hang in there, talk to someone you trust or are close to and ask them to help you through the dip.
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I had a few mornings a week or two ago that I felt miserable, got angry and short with the dog, felt the cold and just generally could not be bothered.
These were the same days that I'd only had a little bit to eat before i left the house. I reckoned it was that, as nothing else had changed, so the next morning I loaded up on a bowl of porridge as usual and then a fry up, eggs, big slab of pork black pudding and a couple bits of toast... Felt grand, didn't feel the cold and was quite happy again.
I'm generally fairly steady when it comes to moods/feelings etc but diet fairly throws me.
Take the time to eat well
These were the same days that I'd only had a little bit to eat before i left the house. I reckoned it was that, as nothing else had changed, so the next morning I loaded up on a bowl of porridge as usual and then a fry up, eggs, big slab of pork black pudding and a couple bits of toast... Felt grand, didn't feel the cold and was quite happy again.
I'm generally fairly steady when it comes to moods/feelings etc but diet fairly throws me.
Take the time to eat well
I had a few mornings a week or two ago that I felt miserable, got angry and short with the dog, felt the cold and just generally could not be bothered.
These were the same days that I'd only had a little bit to eat before i left the house. I reckoned it was that, as nothing else had changed, so the next morning I loaded up on a bowl of porridge as usual and then a fry up, eggs, big slab of pork black pudding and a couple bits of toast... Felt grand, didn't feel the cold and was quite happy again.
I'm generally fairly steady when it comes to moods/feelings etc but diet fairly throws me.
Take the time to eat well
Sounds like a classic case of hanger Davie! You are right though. Need to take care of yourself to help keep everything balanced. Exercise really helps too.
I’m the same @davieh3350 if I get hungry I get a right grump on, good feed and I’m back on an even keel. Just at the moment though I have no appittite at all and have to really force myself to eat. Would live of tea and biscuits as it’s the only thing I find I can taste. Bad cold and too many worries is dragging me down
Christoph1945
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Diet and hydration are two big factors in a balanced feeling of well being. Just the other week I spent a full day metal detecting on a Welsh beach in the cold and didn't have a drink until I actually returned home for tea. No problems there then! Nope; not until two am, when I awoke with tremendous cramps in both calves and thighs. Staggered around the bedroom feeling as though the muscles were being torn apart.
Same again yesterday but kept hydrated and did some light exercises and stretching before climbing into bed and slept like a baby all night.
Hydration is even more important when we are suffering from colds, influenza, or diarrhea. I hear tell that our favourite tipples, tea coffee and alcohol, can accentuate dehydration and cause any number of problems in our feelings of wellbeing.
Chris
Same again yesterday but kept hydrated and did some light exercises and stretching before climbing into bed and slept like a baby all night.
Hydration is even more important when we are suffering from colds, influenza, or diarrhea. I hear tell that our favourite tipples, tea coffee and alcohol, can accentuate dehydration and cause any number of problems in our feelings of wellbeing.
Chris
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Stumbled upon this article and wondered if any would find it of interest. Although the article is predominantly dealing with romantically broken hearts and offering advice on the healing thereof, much of the advice can be adapted for other loss situations.
A bit late for me romantically, but plenty of advice in there that I can add to my store of survival tools.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/joyce-marter-/broken-heart_b_4645774.html
Chris
A bit late for me romantically, but plenty of advice in there that I can add to my store of survival tools.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/joyce-marter-/broken-heart_b_4645774.html
Chris
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Stumbled upon this article and wondered if any would find it of interest. Although the article is predominantly dealing with romantically broken hearts and offering advice on the healing thereof, much of the advice can be adapted for other loss situations.
A bit late for me romantically, but plenty of advice in there that I can add to my store of survival tools.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/joyce-marter-/broken-heart_b_4645774.html
Chris
This article is very useful to me right now, and I'm sure others as well. Thank you Chris.
Tried to post this yesterday but deleted it. I've been feeling very low these past few months, it's definitely getting worse, I wouldn't say depression, more anxiety with all the bells & whistles which is causing me to feel despondent. I cant seem to shake it off and have a good day.
I had an experience at the weekend that's knocked the stuffing out of me, I had a bad experience with a road raging driver, I've never come across an individual such as this, around mid to late 20s in a brand new merc and incredibly threatening from the off, just looked and acted like a thug. He'd driven at me whilst overtaking parked cars as I was on my side passing them. Got out of his car tried to get into mine, the whole nine yards, and his dolly bird joined in too, other traffic built up behind us both and to be honest as the car behind me backed up I did too out of embarrassment, I didn't want to cause anyone trouble so I gave in, I've felt terrible since, I know its a trivial thing but on top of everything else its just pounded any self esteem I had into the ground. I've always hated bullies having been bullied when younger, this has just taken me right back there. I wish I could have got out of the car with confidence and talked with him, knowing I could handle any assault, but I have no confidence, this probably showed.
Sorry I know this isn't a big thing, and I know a lot of you guys on here have more serious stuff to worry about than my dented pride but it somehow feels bigger than that to me on top of how I was feeling already.
I had an experience at the weekend that's knocked the stuffing out of me, I had a bad experience with a road raging driver, I've never come across an individual such as this, around mid to late 20s in a brand new merc and incredibly threatening from the off, just looked and acted like a thug. He'd driven at me whilst overtaking parked cars as I was on my side passing them. Got out of his car tried to get into mine, the whole nine yards, and his dolly bird joined in too, other traffic built up behind us both and to be honest as the car behind me backed up I did too out of embarrassment, I didn't want to cause anyone trouble so I gave in, I've felt terrible since, I know its a trivial thing but on top of everything else its just pounded any self esteem I had into the ground. I've always hated bullies having been bullied when younger, this has just taken me right back there. I wish I could have got out of the car with confidence and talked with him, knowing I could handle any assault, but I have no confidence, this probably showed.
Sorry I know this isn't a big thing, and I know a lot of you guys on here have more serious stuff to worry about than my dented pride but it somehow feels bigger than that to me on top of how I was feeling already.
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There are some real idiots about and it’s probably a good thing you didn’t get out of your vehicle or things could have escalated out of your control rapidly. It’s the strong man that avoids confrontation mainly for the reasons that are troubling you now. You need to be thinking ‘I did the right thing’ and how you potentially avoided a much worse situation.
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When depression and/or anxiety set in, it is often the little things that can tip you over! A classic symptom of anxiety is when a situation seems catastrophic. You did (as others have suggested) handle this situation well, but it is the panic and feeling of low self esteem, that is the problem. I suggest you need to see your GP and tell him/her your situation.
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@Juggler, you did the right thing , some battles aren't worth fighting. Just got to remember that's over with now try and put it behind you, I know it's easy to hang on to it and reanalysis it constantly..... I know I'm guilty of that.
, some battles aren't worth fighting. Just got to remember that's over with now try and put it behind you, I know it's easy to hang on to it and reanalysis it constantly..... I know I'm guilty of that.Does this sum up how you feel? If you been feeling it for a while then maybe it's time to address it, there is no shame in asking for help, the GP would be a good start
Probably been covered on here but I`ll chuck the link up again as it shows how the various things are linked alongside some sound advice. Its not about popping pills, its about breaking life into small manageable bits and dealing with them. That normally needs somebody to offer support that is either emotional or physical.
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/dealing-with-depression/
Its taken very seriously at the factory with lots of support available.... as there is outside..but you need to make the first step.
@Juggler as above, you done the right & better thing. Its a better man that walks away.
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/dealing-with-depression/
Its taken very seriously at the factory with lots of support available.... as there is outside..but you need to make the first step.
@Juggler as above, you done the right & better thing. Its a better man that walks away.
Thanks for your kind words, much appreciated.
I've got a lot to be thankful for, which makes feeling like this even more frustrating.
I'll get there, just needed to vent a bit. And yes, that 'How Anxiety feels' quote is absolutely scarily accurate.
I'm going to try a change of lifestyle before going to GP as I suspect that's got a lot to do with it, since selling my stock and renting the place I've kind of lost a big chunk of 'me', sense of purpose being one thing..
So, change of diet, more exercise and find another passion, cant be that difficult can it?
I've got a lot to be thankful for, which makes feeling like this even more frustrating.
I'll get there, just needed to vent a bit. And yes, that 'How Anxiety feels' quote is absolutely scarily accurate.
I'm going to try a change of lifestyle before going to GP as I suspect that's got a lot to do with it, since selling my stock and renting the place I've kind of lost a big chunk of 'me', sense of purpose being one thing..
So, change of diet, more exercise and find another passion, cant be that difficult can it?
Lili
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The first step always the hardest, but never as hard as it seems before you take it. You seem to have an idea as the root of your anxiety, so best luck with addressing it, a new sense of direction, exercise etc could well be all you need to make a big difference, just don't forget there is more help if you feel you want it.Thanks for your kind words, much appreciated.
I've got a lot to be thankful for, which makes feeling like this even more frustrating.
I'll get there, just needed to vent a bit. And yes, that 'How Anxiety feels' quote is absolutely scarily accurate.
I'm going to try a change of lifestyle before going to GP as I suspect that's got a lot to do with it, since selling my stock and renting the place I've kind of lost a big chunk of 'me', sense of purpose being one thing..
So, change of diet, more exercise and find another passion, cant be that difficult can it?
Christoph1945
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Hi Juggler,
as everyone is saying, you did the right thing in that situation. The Christians call it turning the other cheek and the Kabbalists call it not reacting. Your actions stopped the situation from escalating to I don't know what!
Me; I have slowly learned to follow your example but upon driving away find my self seething with anger for some time afterwards. But knowing that my anger would be counterproductive and perhaps move me on to anxiety/depression I try to talk the situation through with a trusted friend and 'sometimes' even have to admit that I was partly to blame for upsetting the other driver.
Have you talked through your childhood fears and being bullied with someone? I think that as youngsters we have a keener sense of fear and it can be so easily manipulated by bullies and abusers. As children we also have a deep belief concept. The youngster that is told the zombies will dig their way out of the graveyard and get them if they don't keep the secret, firmly believe the statement to be true. Or when the abuser says he/she will kill the child's parents if the secret is told of, is filling that child's mind and heart with fear and conflict.
Chris
as everyone is saying, you did the right thing in that situation. The Christians call it turning the other cheek and the Kabbalists call it not reacting. Your actions stopped the situation from escalating to I don't know what!
Me; I have slowly learned to follow your example but upon driving away find my self seething with anger for some time afterwards. But knowing that my anger would be counterproductive and perhaps move me on to anxiety/depression I try to talk the situation through with a trusted friend and 'sometimes' even have to admit that I was partly to blame for upsetting the other driver.
Have you talked through your childhood fears and being bullied with someone? I think that as youngsters we have a keener sense of fear and it can be so easily manipulated by bullies and abusers. As children we also have a deep belief concept. The youngster that is told the zombies will dig their way out of the graveyard and get them if they don't keep the secret, firmly believe the statement to be true. Or when the abuser says he/she will kill the child's parents if the secret is told of, is filling that child's mind and heart with fear and conflict.
Chris
Thanks everyone, its helped to get it out, I still feel daft for allowing such a person to affect me so much but I am starting to see it was the right decision, I can see he was the polar opposite of me and no way would I want to be that sort of person.
Need to sort myself out though, its gone on for long enough now. Thank you again
Need to sort myself out though, its gone on for long enough now. Thank you again
nickirl
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Thank you.@Juggler, you did the right thing
Does this sum up how you feel? If you been feeling it for a while then maybe it's time to address it, there is no shame in asking for help, the GP would be a good start
I do feel like this someday but im ok i go see a counsellor regularly as well its suits me more than medication.
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I only revived that from a page or two back, someone else deserves the credit for finding it. I'm a great believer in counsellors and think I prefer the idea to taking drugs. The GP has a range of options I believe imcluding both medication and referral to counsellors etc, allowing them to work with you to best deal with your individual situation