went something like this.....
Farmer...'Did you work for Smiths at some point'
Me 'Yes but please don't contact them for a reference as they are friendly with my current employer and I can do without the hassle of him finding out..please use our vets Mr Jones as a referee'
Farmer 'understandable'
Imagine my surprise when last night I received a message from Smiths...'Did you get that Job at broadbank? My dad said they were on the phone'.....
Once again the honesty and integrity of Dairy farmers shines through........
note all names have been changed and I am not griping at all dairy farmers..just a select few....
Had it occurred to you that your interviewer might be friendly with the Smiths? Of course they will will ask them for a reference on the quiet. Or were the Smiths one of the ones you left in a hurry from too?
We live in a very small world - TFF and a username is no guarantee of anonymity either.
I hope that one day you find a good employer who earns your trust and respect, and that you earn theirs too. Only you can break out of this negative cycle.