The wife and I dropped the son off at university Saturday.Not ashamed to say I cried like a baby when it was time to leave. I really didn't expect it to hit me that hard. The wife has been in a state for weeks leading up to it, but it had not really effected me until we walked out of his new home, and the door closed behind us. The 2 hour drive home was very quiet. I know that in this modern age of facetime and messenger everybody is contactable, but it's not the same as just popping your head round a door and saying "all right?" or "good night ".I know it's a new chapter for him....but bugger it's hard for us.
Kids off to university
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borderterribles
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I agree , it is tough. But it gets easier by the time the fifth one goes off!
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- Near Beeston Castle
Hard moment but you get over it quite quick. Mine was when they went to Oz, a bit more than a 2 hour drive to visit there.
Old Boar
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Its tough, especially getting the house back - loo roll not being used by the yard, no socks left in the middle of the room, the kitchen found how you left it, lights stay off, the heating is not fiddled with, the car has petrol, and you can find the keys, you gain a remote for the TV, no strange smells, and suddenly the internet is faster.
Wait until Christmas when you pick them up and have trouble folding the duvet cover into the boot...
Wait until Christmas when you pick them up and have trouble folding the duvet cover into the boot...
The terms seem to pass really quickly.
When you take them back or see them off after Christmas ...............its not quite as hard and so on ...................
Sounds corny but it does get better with time.
When you take them back or see them off after Christmas ...............its not quite as hard and so on ...................
Sounds corny but it does get better with time.
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- Essex
Eldest son off to Harper on Wednesday. He has been working for the neighbours all harvest and gets off the tractor at seven tomorrow night and is catching up with some of his mates before getting up early and going off.
Haven't seen him much for the last eight weeks and probably wont catch up until Christmas now. Bitter sweet feeling really. I know he will have a fantastic time and it is the start of his adult life. This is what we all work for, preparing our kids for independent living and making their own way in the world but it doesn't seem 5 minutes ago since we bought him back from hospital as a newborn. jeez they grow up quick.
Chuffed for him and proud. Just need to catch him and tell him before he goes!
Haven't seen him much for the last eight weeks and probably wont catch up until Christmas now. Bitter sweet feeling really. I know he will have a fantastic time and it is the start of his adult life. This is what we all work for, preparing our kids for independent living and making their own way in the world but it doesn't seem 5 minutes ago since we bought him back from hospital as a newborn. jeez they grow up quick.
Chuffed for him and proud. Just need to catch him and tell him before he goes!
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Ffs pull yourself together man! Just dropped number four off at uni on Saturday. I'm with @Old Boar on this one.
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- North Somerset.
I take it you don't run sucklers then, the human equivalent to weaning calves, a bit of upset for a couple of days then everything goes back to a normal routine!
My youngest tok a year out before he went, saved £2K so I was surprised to get a phone call from him asking for a sub just before the end of the first session. I quickly worked out he had blown £200 a week.
I pointed out that if I had that kind of money to go drinking and chasing women I would do it myself rather than funding his excesses!
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time to PARRRRRRRRRTTTTYYYYYY for you and the kid
Lili
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Congratulate yourselves on doing a great job of bringing up your son and giving him the confidence to go away from home. Enjoy the peace and quiet for the moment he'll be back soon.
Ducati899
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my young workers girlfriend has just gone to uni….he's like a different boy this week and not in a good way
and not in a good wayMr Charisma
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To the OP ,,,,, just so you know your not alone ,,,,,, about 6 years ago we dropped our eldest off at uni , she had been in and out of hospital a few times and was very close to her Mum ,,,, as most daughters are , anyway my wife arranged for us to stay locally over night so we didn't have to make a longish drive home that day ,,,, so we left her at her halls arranging to meet her next morning for a coffee before we set off home ,,,, when we came to leave that's when the tears started , daughter wanted to come home and we had quite a torid half hour trying to leave , then out of the blue a second year student turned up and took my daughters hand and told us to go and that she will look after her for the day , she turned around and dragged daughter of into the crowds wiping her eyes and we just jumped into the car and found a lay by where we all just blubbed our eyes out ,
So firstly ,,,,,,,,,Who ever invented Skype ought to be awarded a medal ,,,,, yes you can text and make phone calls but there's nothing quite like looking someone in the face to know they are okay .
And secondly ,,,,, we never got a chance to say thank you to the young lady who took my daughter off for the day ,,,,, took her into town , had dinner , walked along the beach and then eventually took her back to the halls just as various meeting started and she was never seen again by daughter ,,,,, so who ever you were on that day inAberystwyth ,,,,, you are an absolute Angel and I would love to be able to meet you to say thank you so much
2 years later we did it all again with youngest but that was even harder for my wife when we got home and it was so quiet ,,,, she told me that not only had she lost her two daughters but also her best friends ,,,,,, but guess what , even tho they have their own flats and live 80 odd miles away they keep on rolling up home at inconvenient times !!!!!'
So firstly ,,,,,,,,,Who ever invented Skype ought to be awarded a medal ,,,,, yes you can text and make phone calls but there's nothing quite like looking someone in the face to know they are okay .
And secondly ,,,,, we never got a chance to say thank you to the young lady who took my daughter off for the day ,,,,, took her into town , had dinner , walked along the beach and then eventually took her back to the halls just as various meeting started and she was never seen again by daughter ,,,,, so who ever you were on that day inAberystwyth ,,,,, you are an absolute Angel and I would love to be able to meet you to say thank you so much
2 years later we did it all again with youngest but that was even harder for my wife when we got home and it was so quiet ,,,, she told me that not only had she lost her two daughters but also her best friends ,,,,,, but guess what , even tho they have their own flats and live 80 odd miles away they keep on rolling up home at inconvenient times !!!!!'
Campbell
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Myself and later my brother went off to boarding school at age 11. Sometimes wonder what mother really thought about it. Now got the youngest daughter about to move out of here [again] .....
ollie989898
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Cripes, I drove off to Uni on my own and didn't even get a stare in the mirror. Bank account stuffed with cash from harvest work, car crammed with the student life bit, couldn't have been more eager to learn something. Young, dumb and full of vinegar.
Looking back, I would done something totally different.
Looking back, I would done something totally different.
Mr Charisma
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Lads are totally different to girls ,,,,,, I did 5 years at boarding school so I was already hardened to that sort of thing but when you see your own flesh and blood so upset it affects you ,,,,,,, but with in 2 or 3 days all was back to normal
ollie989898
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Ah, I didn't realise they were so upset, I can imagine being quite taken aback by that myself in those circumstances.
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Don't worry it will seem like no time before they are back with the dirty washing and then in three short years they will boomerang back full time.
Two of our three boomeranged, they were looking for work - I provided some on the farm until they found something more in line with what they wanted.
No 3 made sure he had a job before he graduated.
Slightly strange going up 3 rungs in the 'things I have to care about' in the Mrs Pms list, only number 2300 now after the stock, dogs, mother-in-law etc.
Two of our three boomeranged, they were looking for work - I provided some on the farm until they found something more in line with what they wanted.
No 3 made sure he had a job before he graduated.
Slightly strange going up 3 rungs in the 'things I have to care about' in the Mrs Pms list, only number 2300 now after the stock, dogs, mother-in-law etc.
Dman2
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Biggest problem with the kids going off to uni is
You just get used to them not being around, then the buggers come back
You just get used to them not being around, then the buggers come back
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Bg junior has just gone back to Cirencester for his 2nd year and we dropped our daughter at Reading 2 weeks ago for freshers week. I must say that Mrs BG and I have both been very excited for them both and just a little bit jealous. They are doing what they want to do and are really enjoying it. The family what's app group is getting lots of use. We are off to Reading to deliver supplies on Sunday which will be fun. the house is quiet at the mo but it does mean we can go to the pub without have to pay for 4 meals.
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