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Im sorry for your loss
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Preparing for end of life - practical matters
- Thread starter Jerry
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Mrs Holwell
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- Cole Green, Hertford.
Thinking of you and yours at this sad time. So sorry for your loss.
Mel x
Mel x
I lost my father not long ago,i told our bank manager the news and he said the partnership had ended and the account had to be frozen.
Luckily for us our bank set up another account straight away so we could continue trading without any problems.
The biggest issue we have had is with a solicitor who wrote dads will and made a complete arse of it.Thats being sorted now and things are getting back to normal.
Sorry to hear about your Dad.
Glad your bank took immediate steps to allow you to continue trading without any holdups after they had followed the rules they have to about freezing the account. It would be nice if they were all as helpful
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Thanks to all for your thoughts and comments.
It has been much appreciated, by myself and the family.
Its been pretty hard at times and I have blubbled my eyes out more than once, I spent a good hour just sat on a hill at the top of the farm thinking and remembering. Memories flooding back.
Today was pretty tough as I wanted to go into Exeter market as Dad was well know and respected there, Lots of people coming up to shake my hand and offer me their condolences.
I think some one mentioned earlier in this thread how people being nice can be really hard, well I now know what you mean.
Funeral is sorted and we have him booked in for his preferred plot thank fully. As family tradition dictates he will be going to Church on the back of a farm trailer. His Father, Grand Father and Great Grand Father all went on the back of a Sussex Hay Wain. That actual trailer is still in the family but is too frail to travel from Sussex to Devon so instead I have a friend with a fully restored MF135 and matching Massey 3T tipper, again in pristine condition, that will be doing the honors. It is the first tractor I ever drove and the first one Dad ever bought brand new so quite fitting.
Monday I am booked to register his death and then the wall of paperwork needs sorting so will make a start on that.
Main priority is to keep Mum feeling safe and secure at the moment, after nearly 60 years of marriage she is feeling lost at the moment, thank fully she is in very good health.
Again, thank you all for things.
It has been much appreciated, by myself and the family.
Its been pretty hard at times and I have blubbled my eyes out more than once, I spent a good hour just sat on a hill at the top of the farm thinking and remembering. Memories flooding back.
Today was pretty tough as I wanted to go into Exeter market as Dad was well know and respected there, Lots of people coming up to shake my hand and offer me their condolences.
I think some one mentioned earlier in this thread how people being nice can be really hard, well I now know what you mean.
Funeral is sorted and we have him booked in for his preferred plot thank fully. As family tradition dictates he will be going to Church on the back of a farm trailer. His Father, Grand Father and Great Grand Father all went on the back of a Sussex Hay Wain. That actual trailer is still in the family but is too frail to travel from Sussex to Devon so instead I have a friend with a fully restored MF135 and matching Massey 3T tipper, again in pristine condition, that will be doing the honors. It is the first tractor I ever drove and the first one Dad ever bought brand new so quite fitting.
Monday I am booked to register his death and then the wall of paperwork needs sorting so will make a start on that.
Main priority is to keep Mum feeling safe and secure at the moment, after nearly 60 years of marriage she is feeling lost at the moment, thank fully she is in very good health.
Again, thank you all for things.
@Jerry you've made me cry now.
The funeral sounds beautiful. I never understood how anyone could say "it was a GOOD funeral" , but I do now, and I think you will too.
If you're having hymns and aren't sure how they sound then most of them are on the interweb.
Keep an eye on your Mum for depression and chest infections.
You WILL get through this.
Taking time to just sit is good to do. The hill sounds very pleasant and peaceful.
The funeral sounds beautiful. I never understood how anyone could say "it was a GOOD funeral" , but I do now, and I think you will too.
If you're having hymns and aren't sure how they sound then most of them are on the interweb.
Keep an eye on your Mum for depression and chest infections.
You WILL get through this.
Taking time to just sit is good to do. The hill sounds very pleasant and peaceful.
@Jerry
Sorry to hear about your dad but having read your post #25, you need to remember that the farm is yours now and the baton has been passed on. That is the way ...... only, some hold on to it too long.
My advice, for what it's worth, is to farm the land the way you want to and not how you think your dad would have done. Then one day, pass it on to your children or whoever for them to farm it was they want.
Sorry to hear about your dad but having read your post #25, you need to remember that the farm is yours now and the baton has been passed on. That is the way ...... only, some hold on to it too long.
My advice, for what it's worth, is to farm the land the way you want to and not how you think your dad would have done. Then one day, pass it on to your children or whoever for them to farm it was they want.
We took Dad to the crematorium with his Tractor on market day. It was the only fitting way of doing. He often joked he would only leave in a wooden box and so he did
The funeral will be a bit of a whirlwind and you won't know whether it's raining or Thursday but keep calm. If you're doing the eulogy make sure its written down properly so if someone has to step in for you then they can carry on.
Best of luck
The funeral will be a bit of a whirlwind and you won't know whether it's raining or Thursday but keep calm. If you're doing the eulogy make sure its written down properly so if someone has to step in for you then they can carry on.
Best of luck
Sussex Martin
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- Burham Kent
@Jerry sorry for your loss and there is little to add after all the advice above. Grief is a strange thing as I have found out so just take things as easy as you can for a while and yes find your quiet spot and shed a few tears, there is no shame in that.
The funeral will be the end of a chapter in your life and the start of the next, be thankful for the time spent with and the memories of your dad and don't forget to hug those close to you, they need it as much as you.
The funeral will be the end of a chapter in your life and the start of the next, be thankful for the time spent with and the memories of your dad and don't forget to hug those close to you, they need it as much as you.
Nearly
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- North of York
Yes, but maybe it's all they could think of. Better than saying nothing, or avoiding you
Yes, but maybe it's all they could think of. Better than saying nothing, or avoiding you
Most of the time it was the people who said it. Those closest to us and part of my team knew exactly what to say. But then there's other well wishers who I presume said it just make themselves feel better rather to offer any support.
I wasn't rude or disrespectful back, just nodded and said thank you. Grief is a curious thing and I didn't appreciate being pitied or patronised.
multi power
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- pembrokeshire
I can't think of a nicer way for ones final journey