Dealing with depression - suicidal thoughts - Join the conversation (including helpline details)

[Christoph1945]

How old is he? Married, single?

Sounds like you are both 'perhaps' going through difficult times.

 

[Milkcow365]

How old is he? Married, single?

Sounds like you are both 'perhaps' going through difficult times.

26 I’m 21 tomorrow! He’s having relationship troubles as well as feeling like he’s not achieving much with his life, our parents have been getting divorced this last 2 years and it’s been tough,I know it has but that’s farming it puts serious pressure on you,

 

[Jameshenry]

Not overly I made some jobs up to do with him, he’s a fairly big thinker as in over thinks, im not like that I’m the man up it will be right enough kind, I’ve told him we will get him help tomorrow, it’s been a tough 2 years for us but things are on the up this last few months, he just doesn’t seem happy with life in general,

Might be a good idea to get your brother away from the farm for a few days if possible, not a good place to be if he's in a bad place in his head, do you have any friends/neighbours that perhaps could step in and help out whilst you concentrate on your brother?

 

[Milkcow365]

Might be a good idea to get your brother away from the farm for a few days if possible, not a good place to be if he's in a bad place in his head, do you have any friends/neighbours that perhaps could step in and help out whilst you concentrate on your brother?

Yeah he should get away he’s caught up on field work, we have a few staff so it’s not an issue for him to get away, will see what he says tomorrow I want him to do what he wants to do not what he feels he has to in life

 

[Lili]

Please don't take all the responsibility on yourself and don't hesitate to seek professional help. This is too big a problem for you to have to manage alone. Best wishes

 

[Jameshenry]

Yeah he should get away he’s caught up on field work, we have a few staff so it’s not an issue for him to get away, will see what he says tomorrow I want him to do what he wants to do not what he feels he has to in life

It's hard to see someone close going through bad times, the farm community network will have a local volunteer that will come and have a chat to you and your brother if you want, they are very good at what they do, there are plenty on here that will listen and help all we can,
i lost an uncle to suicide last year so i know all to well how bad things can get,

 

[Bear101]

Make sure that He speaks to someone. But be aware of your self as well. Things like this can impact you in ways that may not be obvious. Talk to a friend if you can.

 

[holwellcourtfarm]

caught my brother attempting to take his life today, was just about to step over the edge when I came into the yard by luck, not sure how I feel to be honest not sure what happened has sunk in

Sorry to hear that.

Do your parents know? If their actions are adding to his woes they need to accept it and be more considerate.

20's can be a difficult age with relationships. I know I'm way more resilient about them now (50's) than I was then.

 

[Christoph1945]

It's a hard place to be; when darkness descends on your life, your heart is broken, you feel a total lack of achievement, and you can't see any future.

There are times and subjects that people would not wish to discuss with other family members but if you guys sit down to eat together that would be a good time to ask him about how he is feeling now but accept that there may be areas of his life that he may not want to reveal to you. That is one of the reasons that we have the Samaritans and a host of other support organisations where we can talk anonymously.

 

[CornishRanger]

@waterbuffalofarmer hope things are settling down with you, too soon to expect too much improvement I would expect, but I hope things with you father and all is looking in the right direction

@Thomas-milmain, I hope things are better with you today, but as others have said above even if things are "brighter" today your brother should see someone, yesterday was a cry for help and hopefully he realises that. Also make sure you look after yourself, I can imagine with everything going on your under alot of pressure yourself

 

[waterbuffalofarmer]

@waterbuffalofarmer hope things are settling down with you, too soon to expect too much improvement I would expect, but I hope things with you father and all is looking in the right direction

@Thomas-milmain, I hope things are better with you today, but as others have said above even if things are "brighter" today your brother should see someone, yesterday was a cry for help and hopefully he realises that. Also make sure you look after yourself, I can imagine with everything going on your under alot of pressure yourself

Things are thanks everyone's teaming together again, which is great. Still some issues to be resolved but no doubt they will be in time Dad's going for his operation day after tomorrow, but is travelling up to London tomoz.

Thank you for inquiring

 

[Christoph1945]

What are they going to do to Dad, under the scalpel? He is probably bound to be somewhat nervous; it goes with the nature of the event. We will all be thinking of you and hope dad has a safe journey to and from London.

Chris

 

[waterbuffalofarmer]

What are they going to do to Dad, under the scalpel? He is probably bound to be somewhat nervous; it goes with the nature of the event. We will all be thinking of you and hope dad has a safe journey to and from London.

Chris

Thank you Chris

They will be giving him an ablation procedure, he will be knocked out for it thankfully tho.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/cardiac-ablation/about/pac-20384993
This is what will be happening...
I really hope everyone else's weeks get better. TC yaselves please and remember plenty of support is here from everyone on here to anyone who is struggling.
Buffy

 

[czechmate]

Thank you Chris

They will be giving him an ablation procedure, he will be knocked out for it thankfully tho.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/cardiac-ablation/about/pac-20384993
This is what will be happening...
I really hope everyone else's weeks get better. TC yaselves please and remember plenty of support is here from everyone on here to anyone who is struggling.
Buffy

Are you slaying vampires as an extra job now?

 

[waterbuffalofarmer]

Are you slaying vampires as an extra job now?

That's old news

 

[czechmate]

That's old news

Well I’m old.
I’ve never noticed you sign that way before
Hope your dads op goes well

 

[waterbuffalofarmer]

Well I’m old.
I’ve never noticed you sign that way before
Hope your dads op goes well

Well always a first for everything
Thanks
P.s I don't sign my actual name in public, standard protocol

 

[Dangerous Dan]

Really struggling with life at the minute. Get really wound up quick as a flash(as in, I want to repeatedly hit things that aren't working my way...) , feeling useless every day. Feel bad at telling children off more than not. Fed up at being fed up. Is that part of the depression or am I just over worked and underslept??? Anyone else feel the same way?

 

[Jameshenry]

Really struggling with life at the minute. Get really wound up quick as a flash(as in, I want to repeatedly hit things that aren't working my way...) , feeling useless every day. Feel bad at telling children off more than not. Fed up at being fed up. Is that part of the depression or am I just over worked and underslept??? Anyone else feel the same way?

Overworking and not enough sleep will certainly kick things off at times, might pay to take a step back from things or walk away from situations instead of losing it ! Easier said than done i know,
Can you get away from work and the farm for a few hrs ? go see a friend or neighbour and talk about what's wrong, it will help

 

[Greenbeast]

I read a further book on how the mind works recently, in addition to those books i have already recommended i can add 'The Chimp Paradox' by Professor Steve Peters, he's a British psychiatrist and deals with the mind by naming the 3 main parts (of the mind, not the brain as a physical thing) that operate on a day to day basis and have to interact and fight for control of your thoughts and actions.
Really, really worth a look, it may help some to mentally take a step back and realise the rash reaction is not logical or sensible.