Reached the point of total exhaustion, loads to do but just can’t get my body to go. Come back in the house for the third time today for a lie down otherwise I feel I may collapse. Chests a bit better just got no energy and my leg is very painful, guess I need a few days rest bug actually getting it is not feasible at the moment.
Dealing with depression - suicidal thoughts - Join the conversation (including helpline details)
- Thread starter Andyrob
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That sounds quite desperate, certainly would make daily progress difficult.
Is there any help you can call on for a day or two?
Got some help thanks but still need to do most of the tractor and quad work plus my dogs only work for me which is a bit of a bind at the moment. I had a few days where I felt a bit better but absolutely shot today.
Lili
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- Aberystwyth hinterland
You have had a bad chest infection if I remember? Sounds as if you really need a break to recover which is as you say not practical at the moment . Is it possible to break your work up as much as possible into short stints and take more short breaks with a sit down and a cup of tea rather than push yourself until you collapse? You may find you can get as much done without feeling so flattened.
Big_D
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- S W Scotland
Best to accept you can't do it just now, if you push through it then end up all the worse. Any jobs around the house or garden you can plitter away at?
Chest is a bit better thanks Alice, second lot of antibiotics seem to have got on top of it but I’m a long way of right. Just doing what I can and trying to rest as much as possible but just completely exhausted today.
Just do what you can & the rest can wait, & no beating yourself up about it, that will just make you feel worse & sap your energy further.
May be worth asking for a blood test to check for the Epstein-Barr virus, that makes you feel wiped out, as does swine flu.
Sadly, this didnt happen.
Hang in there and make sure to talk to your partner, not just bottle it up.
So, when you do this, and they put forward no solutions, nor hints, and strongly imply that their preference is the status quo what do you do? My spouse and family see my dispair as just melodrama, whereas I *really* and *badly* need to get out right now. I have a back-up plan but it involves none of them in any way, shape or form. In fact, I am just bloody sick of the sight of all of them I would be best just leaving my keys and going right now. I fully expect that I would be coming away with nothing in any case, so why not just lock the door and walk away?
When you sit down with your family and very candidly say that you need some serious help and cannot continue doing the same things what on earth do you do?
I feel for you Roy, my wife was exactly the same and asked for a divorce which only added to the stress. I can’t advise you what to do but I do hope you have someone you can talk to that can give you some help.
Sorry to hear it's not improving. If your family won't engage with you then maybe you need to seriously think about talking to someone outside of your family circle, like a counsellor, but face to face maybe, so you can see the same one repeatedly and not have to explain everything from scratch each time.
If mine would just leave it would really sort it out! Its like they are so blase about it all. She wont be feeling the same when the consequences of the wet autumn hit as I fully expect no spring crops will be planted; much of the rapeseed should really be written off; and the wheat is nothing special. The financial cost of that for a tenant farmer is not pretty. It it pretty much going to undo all the hard work of the last few years. All that time. It has just been such a total waste of time.
No, I have no-one to talk to. What do I pay a counsellor with? There is nothing left. Just nothing.
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- Glen Clova, Angus, DD8 4RD
It sound like a no-win situation.
If they won't listen or take you seriously you probably need to get out.
Keep sharing it here though, there are folk who care.
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- Cornwall
Can't begin to imagine what your going through, part of the problem with our chosen career is that you can not separate work and personal life, so if there are problems there seems to be no escape from them.
Have you tried any of the helplines listed in the first post on this thread? Unfortunately I can't offer any more help than that, and my best wishes.
Lili
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- Aberystwyth hinterland
@Roy Baty As other have said PLEASE contact one of the helplines. Some of them are only available on weekdays but the Samaritans will give you a listening ear 24/7 on 116 123 free call. They may not be agricultural based but they will be someone anonymous to whom you can offload how you are feeling. Best wishes.
Interestingly, the response from my GP was "so, exactly why are you still a farmer?". They dont understand that the family consequences of one member of the family packing in are pretty devastating for the rest of the family.
Will try and pluck up the courage to ring someone. Thanks.
Will try and pluck up the courage to ring someone. Thanks.
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- Limousin/Charentes toad land
Lili
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- Aberystwyth hinterland
The like was for the courage.
Best wishes
No. Apart from a pair of haughty cats.