farming family relationships......

[Doitzland]

When i was younger tractor work is what i loved. Now i couldnt give a toss. Id rather be working with stock or bodging machinery.

you did a bit of everything then?

 

[nelly55]

Get on with your life,get your own job you enjoy,get your own house.Stay in touch with family but get on with life yourself.Thats from someone who walked away and got a better life.In times of need and help you find out just who your friends are,the relatives look the other way.I envy some families they just all seem to get on,watch out for each other and drop everything to help a family member out .As soon as money is on the table true colours come out.

 

[J 1177]

you did a bit of everything then?

Yep. Arable farm so no pit work but have drawn silage and mowed for others. The novelty soon wears off

 

[holywell farmer]

Hello all. What to do about this. Hope anyone can have an insight into this to help me understand how to navigate myself out of this one.
right here goes and I am up for constructive criticism and positive ways.
All my life I have grown up between two farms I was always the fella who does the buckraking from early 90s till I went to university which I now run a successful CCTV farm business and silage time has always been a passion of mine that wasn't "allowed" to do other jobs such as mowing, carting the grass (which I done when I came back from uni and its a role that my uncle or father is comfortable for me to do) my father and I rowed a lot about the nitty gritty details about silage he refuses to let me in to it into the past and today. my uncle is more willing to share the roles but even then in the past can be reluctant partner in silage times. I have always wanted to mow the grass at home ground and get a hand at the harvester. my father always gives the work to other people or my younger brother and he's away over seas to do some custom harvesting by himself.
when I finished uni I worked in Scotland for 5 years then came home and start again I had asked my father could use his tractor and I buy a mower to get me started for summer contracting and use his mart contacts to get me started he said no way so I'm still angry about because then theres people who didn't contract as much around as there is now and he that said I wouldn't make any money and F**K off.
so then I left the country again for a 2 or 3 years and came back to work to start a business in cameras (2009) its working well I had a house that my father got me to rent with land beside it. I had thought he was giving me a chance to buy it with non financial help from him just as guarantor turned out he bought it for himself he wasn't interested in the house but just the land and my mother wanted the house its a small bit of land 5 acres and and small house needless to say I was raging mad at the them for being selfish for what I wanted out of life and not helping at all.so then later on about a year later I married someone and we bought a house with 4 acres of land theres was sneering from people in my area cos I'm not a "farmer" or what u need 4 acres for that kind of attitude point is I wanted land to do what I wanted to do look after it and do all the tractor work needed to keep it and make a few pound out of it. but now I am going through separation with my wife due to a woman who is far too controlling I must attract those types!!!
I am now back in the house my father bought its been sitting empty since I left it haha but shouldn't be like that really. so lately he's put in his silage around he has a cousin he's very friendly with who does a lot of the tractor work for him and his friend puts in the silage for him with the mower and harvester. I did draw silage last week with my own tractor (Valtra) he recently used my tractor to top grass as he assumed he could use my tractor without permission so I'm still angry with my dad for his attitude cos today I asked him I've some quiet time coming up and could I put the slurry out for you with my tractor and what he do he called his mate and asked him to do it for him. im like unbelieveable.!!!
so my question to anyone who could help? I want to do silage for myself without being branded as childish or foolish yes I do have good business and make decent pound but why can't I do what I would enjoy doing as well that is mowing raking slurry silage harvester etc without having to put myself in debt in trying to get at it. I don't ask for much or am I?
btw this cousins friend started contract work with a leg up from his father 6 years ago his father had a tractor and he bought the rest and now works 800 acres a year and sometimes my father would help him too give him contacts give him a turn 10 years ago I wanted to do this. but my main question what do I do now and or will I take it lying down and let my dream go.....

Never give up on a dream,

 

[holywell farmer]

Morning. its actually two farms 150 acres and 100 acres. they contract work in and smaller jobs are done by themselves.Im not actually part of the farm thoug but Ive gotten the message now though thanks GTB for your encourgement.On top of all this Im going through a separation as well.its a tough world out there

Take myself am stuck on building site at moment but this summer made really effort to get job with contractor or farmer, which I hope soon pay off,

 

[Derrick Hughes]

you did a bit of everything then?

On our farm we all had our jobs .I did calves and rations and feeding milkers. bro did milking .dad did bedding and scrapping . At harvest we all mucked in . I did buckrake but didn't mind as I hated milking .We never argued about who should do what

 

[Doitzland]

Take myself am stuck on building site at moment but this summer made really effort to get job with contractor or farmer, which I hope soon pay off,

Good luck with it man I know its worth it in the end this world is for experiencing things before you get old. you live within your means of course!
Theres a lot of tight arses out there.
Id still ask for solid pay dont undervalue yourself.

 

[flatliner]

Doitzland, blow town sir. You've got qualifications and few ties, you've got one life, live it.

 

[holywell farmer]

Good luck with it man I know its worth it in the end this world is for experiencing things before you get old. you live within your means of course!
Theres a lot of tight arses out there.
Id still ask for solid pay dont undervalue yourself.

Thank you

 

[holywell farmer]

Good luck with it man I know its worth it in the end this world is for experiencing things before you get old. you live within your means of course!
Theres a lot of tight arses out there.
Id still ask for solid pay dont undervalue yourself.

In between building this summer done a bit of silage which has been nice

 

[jamj]

@Doitzland your posts are hard to read.
May I suggest some punctuation.
I gave up on reading this thread.

 

[holywell farmer]

Yep. Arable farm so no pit work but have drawn silage and mowed for others. The novelty soon wears off

You didn't like hours ?

 

[J 1177]

You didn't like hours ?

No not that as such just prefer working with stock more variable really. Variety is what i prefer. Sometimes i enjoy tractor work but not all the time.

 

[RedMerle]

I'd have hoped that someone who had been through university would have discovered paragraphs..................

As it happens he's posted that he is deaf.

Those deaf people who grow up signing use grammar differently to those of us with the benefit of hearing.

 

[bovrill]

As it happens he's posted that he is deaf.

Those deaf people who grow up signing use grammar differently to those of us with the benefit of hearing.

Like knowing to say "different from" rather than "differently to"?

sorry

 

[Kidds]

I left school having had a reasonably good state education nearly 40 years ago, grammar was not on the syllabus. I don't think that has changed since so how are people supposed to know other than rely on the forum grammar police, although all they do is criticise with their airs of superiority rather than try to assist.
I struggled with good hearing, a deaf person hasn't much chance at all.

To the OP, tractor driving is shite and fecks your body up. Go and make some money somewhere else and just bugger about in your garden with a 35 or summat. Much more enjoyable in the long run.

 

[RedMerle]

Like knowing to say "different from" rather than "differently to"?

sorry

Is that how picky forum members are these days.

 

[bovrill]

Is that how picky forum members are these days.

I said I'm sorry
I'm only joking, really

And anyway, you brought up grammar, and I couldn't resist!

 

[GTB]

You know a thread is dead when people start bringing up grammar or hitler!

 

[Kidds]

You know a thread is dead when people start bringing up grammar or hitler!

"Hitler" should have a capital "H"