FutureFarmer
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50 hour week then?2nd child I had a week of just doing the bare minimum
50 hour week then?2nd child I had a week of just doing the bare minimum
Steady on… I said I did the bare minimum not nothing 60-70 hour maybe50 hour week then?
That's an unfair too generalised an answer.I wonder how many mother's are reading this thread and thinking "what a bunch of strokers" ? Probably more than you men think!
Had a couple of days off when they came home (c-section)
She said I was to have more because they had told her she wasn't even allowed to lift the kettle.
I said she never feckin did anyway.
You didnt have f.uck all else to do you mean?Timed both for end of nov/beginning of December. Being an arable farmer I didn’t have any physical work to do, but did do office stuff. Nothing pressing though so was there most of the time.
Both sun roof so was needed around.
Yes, exactly.You didnt have f.uck all eles to do you mean?
Maybe it is just me. I don't get a marriage or partnership where one side is on their own. Meaning left on your Tod to cope. If a couple embark on a shared endeavour such as having a child then surely this endeavour should be shared equally unless agreement is made before the event but let's be honest unless a man is trying remove a watermelon from his backside on a daily basis without pain relief I don't see much progress.Having been there at birth and conception, I must say that conception was much more fun.
Having said that, we knew the midwife who was in charge when the first one was born so we (well I, really) had a fair amount of craic with her and the rest of the team. It coincided with us having had a lot heifers (who weren't supposed to be in calf) c-sectioned so there was a lot of banter about calving ropes, jacks and the like while we were waiting. Didn't go down too well with @Mrs Y B as it finished up being a forceps job
Nearly missed the second one - as the first was a fairly drawn out job, I dropped her off at the maternity ward, nipped off to the bank ( well, why waste a trip into town ), had some chips and picked up a Sporting Life and was only just back in the nick of time
Back to work straight away after both and that was about it as far as child care was concerned. @Mrs Y B brought them both up, pretty much single handed and did a grand job too .
As somebody said earlier (could have been @spin cycle ) she was from farming stock so took it all in her stride and did a far better job than if I'd been there, sticking my oar in, all the time.
Call me old fashioned (or anything else, if you like @abitdaft ) but I just don't 'get' this new fangled carry on with the bloke having two weeks paternity leave or whatever it's called
The farm (worked by one person for arguments sake) with all its stock and every day work just stops conveniently then does it ?Maybe it is just me. I don't get a marriage or partnership where one side is on their own. Meaning left on your Tod to cope. If a couple embark on a shared endeavour such as having a child then surely this endeavour should be shared equally unless agreement is made before the event but let's be honest unless a man is trying remove a watermelon from his backside on a daily basis without pain relief I don't see much progress.
Trouble is Women in respect of looking after children /babies wont let up and danger is they run themselves into the ground by putting them first over themselves.Bloke take two weeks off....blimey, Dad said there was a woman up the road was milking the cows by hand, went in and had the baby, went back out and finished milking the cows, she didn't get much time off did she
And if one of us was not going to work and earning some money there'd be nowhere to live and nothing to eat.Nah, she just heldyour baby in her body for nine months. Then she had to be cut open to allowyour child to be born.