FutureFarmer
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50 hour week then?
New parents
- Thread starter K39
- Start date
60-70 hour maybe 
The best thing for new parents: electronic ear defenders.
Hear me out on this. It's 3am, you and your wife are knackered because you haven't slept through a night for weeks, and it's your turn to settle the baby because it's 'between feeds'. So you pick them up, and hold them to your shoulder, and then the crying starts - 5" from your ear and it's the most stressful noise you can imagine.
With electronic ear defenders you can hear everything, right up to the point the crying goes over 84 decibels, then it all goes quiet(er) again. Bliss!
Hear me out on this. It's 3am, you and your wife are knackered because you haven't slept through a night for weeks, and it's your turn to settle the baby because it's 'between feeds'. So you pick them up, and hold them to your shoulder, and then the crying starts - 5" from your ear and it's the most stressful noise you can imagine.
With electronic ear defenders you can hear everything, right up to the point the crying goes over 84 decibels, then it all goes quiet(er) again. Bliss!
- Location
- N.Lincs
Having been there at birth and conception, I must say that conception was much more fun.
Having said that, we knew the midwife who was in charge when the first one was born so we (well I, really) had a fair amount of craic with her and the rest of the team. It coincided with us having had a lot heifers (who weren't supposed to be in calf) c-sectioned so there was a lot of banter about calving ropes, jacks and the like while we were waiting. Didn't go down too well with @Mrs Y B as it finished up being a forceps job
Nearly missed the second one - as the first was a fairly drawn out job, I dropped her off at the maternity ward, nipped off to the bank ( well, why waste a trip into town
), had some chips and picked up a Sporting Life and was only just back in the nick of time
Back to work straight away after both and that was about it as far as child care was concerned. @Mrs Y B brought them both up, pretty much single handed and did a grand job too.
As somebody said earlier (could have been @spin cycle ) she was from farming stock so took it all in her stride and did a far better job than if I'd been there, sticking my oar in, all the time.
Call me old fashioned (or anything else, if you like @abitdaft ) but I just don't 'get' this new fangled carry on with the bloke having two weeks paternity leave or whatever it's called 
Having said that, we knew the midwife who was in charge when the first one was born so we (well I, really) had a fair amount of craic with her and the rest of the team. It coincided with us having had a lot heifers (who weren't supposed to be in calf) c-sectioned so there was a lot of banter about calving ropes, jacks and the like while we were waiting. Didn't go down too well with @Mrs Y B as it finished up being a forceps job
Nearly missed the second one - as the first was a fairly drawn out job, I dropped her off at the maternity ward, nipped off to the bank ( well, why waste a trip into town
), had some chips and picked up a Sporting Life and was only just back in the nick of time Back to work straight away after both and that was about it as far as child care was concerned. @Mrs Y B brought them both up, pretty much single handed and did a grand job too
.As somebody said earlier (could have been @spin cycle
) she was from farming stock so took it all in her stride and did a far better job than if I'd been there, sticking my oar in, all the time.Call me old fashioned (or anything else, if you like @abitdaft
) but I just don't 'get' this new fangled carry on with the bloke having two weeks paternity leave or whatever it's called 
First one I was silaging the next day
second one I was spraying the day he was born but only did a tank or two a day to keep up with my brother drilling
Third one was in January so had a week of just doing my morning jobs but I had to get the other 2 to school/childminders as well
second one I was spraying the day he was born but only did a tank or two a day to keep up with my brother drilling
Third one was in January so had a week of just doing my morning jobs but I had to get the other 2 to school/childminders as well
That's an unfair too generalised an answer.
Had a couple of days off when they came home (c-section)
She said I was to have more because they had told her she wasn't even allowed to lift the kettle.
I said she never feckin did anyway.
Nah, she just held your baby in her body for nine months. Then she had to be cut open to allow your child to be born.
You didnt have f.uck all else to do you mean?
and had your business all set up by daddy as well what a hero.
but i'll say one thing for you boy your very organised .
- Location
- South Wales UK
Ours were December and March so into lambing etc.
Millennium bug scare ,foot and mouth pandemics also.
Just carried on and did what we had too.
Millennium bug scare ,foot and mouth pandemics also.
Just carried on and did what we had too.
Yes, exactly.
looked after my partner who had major surgery to have my children chopped out of her whilst and with the most recent one looking after the toddler under 2 while she looked after the baby and recovered from surgery for the second time.
far more important than finding some fairly meaningless job to do on the farm to hide away.
- Location
- East meath/dublin
Ah i missed the birth of my first as she came early and i wasnt at home ...
My mother brought my wife to the hospital and my father came to the field where i was ploughing to inform me and take over ..
He been old fashioned advised me to take my time as " men are only in the way and you really dont need to see it " .
Was at the birth of the second though and maybe he was right ....
Was working as normal the day after both times ..
My mother God bless her helped my wife over the hump ..
The auld fella suggested that now that we had kids the wife should give up working and raise them as " Kids need their mother " and i need their father !!!
My wife who is not from a farming background used to call him Don Corleone ....
My mother brought my wife to the hospital and my father came to the field where i was ploughing to inform me and take over ..
He been old fashioned advised me to take my time as " men are only in the way and you really dont need to see it " .
Was at the birth of the second though and maybe he was right ....
Was working as normal the day after both times ..
My mother God bless her helped my wife over the hump ..
The auld fella suggested that now that we had kids the wife should give up working and raise them as " Kids need their mother " and i need their father !!!
My wife who is not from a farming background used to call him Don Corleone ....
Maybe it is just me. I don't get a marriage or partnership where one side is on their own. Meaning left on your Tod to cope. If a couple embark on a shared endeavour such as having a child then surely this endeavour should be shared equally unless agreement is made before the event but let's be honest unless a man is trying remove a watermelon from his backside on a daily basis without pain relief I don't see much progress.Having been there at birth and conception, I must say that conception was much more fun.
Having said that, we knew the midwife who was in charge when the first one was born so we (well I, really) had a fair amount of craic with her and the rest of the team. It coincided with us having had a lot heifers (who weren't supposed to be in calf) c-sectioned so there was a lot of banter about calving ropes, jacks and the like while we were waiting. Didn't go down too well with @Mrs Y B as it finished up being a forceps job
Nearly missed the second one - as the first was a fairly drawn out job, I dropped her off at the maternity ward, nipped off to the bank ( well, why waste a trip into town
Back to work straight away after both and that was about it as far as child care was concerned. @Mrs Y B brought them both up, pretty much single handed and did a grand job too
As somebody said earlier (could have been @spin cycle
Call me old fashioned (or anything else, if you like @abitdaft
The farm (worked by one person for arguments sake) with all its stock and every day work just stops conveniently then does it ?
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Trouble is Women in respect of looking after children /babies wont let up and danger is they run themselves into the ground by putting them first over themselves.
and btw where's the op one post and fudge off type is it?
and wtf's it actually got to do with owing your own farm? what difference does that make as opposed to being a tenant ?
- Location
- Near Beeston Castle
And if one of us was not going to work and earning some money there'd be nowhere to live and nothing to eat.
You can have as much equality as you like but it will never change the fact that generally mothers are female and generally kids need their mum most for the first year or so at the very least. Some men make great mothers but not as a majority. Of course the world would be a much better place if more fathers did their bit at being fathers but that is a different issue and not one I lacked at. My son will vouch for that any time.