How much money do you earn from your sheep?
A good regular job on the dairy farm would pay better and you'd have less stress. Just keep a few ewes to keep your hand in.
Struggling abit
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A good regular job on the dairy farm would pay better and you'd have less stress. Just keep a few ewes to keep your hand in.
It would take some worries away but add new ones by having to go away everyday. With sheep I can get up and do my own thing on own farm. Dad be at eggs till middle day so that gives me while in morming to do my own thing without people butting it. But can back fire to as if I need help with something which tends to be a lot i have to wait till there ready
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That's half of the problem will you have no structure in your life you said a while back you don't want to let people down so if you had a job on this dairy then that's a thing to drive you to get up and get to work so you aren't letting anyone down, sorry to say this you are silly to be trying with the sheep while you have this hanging over you it's just more stress,
ridger
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You need a job. sounds blunt but I could have you a job for Wednesday morning if not Tuesday. even it's wheeling bins out to a bin lorry, or baling cardboard it's a job and money and a chance to meet people and take your life in your own hands. I love telling people, no I can't help you in working tomorrow
Hi @will6910 I've not managed to read all the thread, but speaking from experience here... Walk away from where you are now, I spent from when I was 16, just left school, until I was 19 on the family farm, mother ended up on anti depression tablets because of the arguments between my father and me.
I wrote to a farmer out in Canada who I had never met, and asked for a job, best experience of my life! It changed me for the better, unfortunately I came home here and worked locally and helped on the farm as I wanted to farm it myself, father mucked me about, he was going to pack up and I was going to get it, then wasn't, few years later the same, even 5 years ago he changed his mind again!
I could've emigrated to Canada if I worked at it, but I wasted all those years floating... Waiting for a scrappy bit of ground.
I have it now, but once I do what I want with the place and make a bit of money, I can see myself jacking it in and moving.
I'll come meet you at the port at Stranraer if you want, I can get you work around here, or I can even give you the address of my friend in Canada.
Hell you can even take on my wee flock of Hebridean sheep if you want!
I wrote to a farmer out in Canada who I had never met, and asked for a job, best experience of my life! It changed me for the better, unfortunately I came home here and worked locally and helped on the farm as I wanted to farm it myself, father mucked me about, he was going to pack up and I was going to get it, then wasn't, few years later the same, even 5 years ago he changed his mind again!
I could've emigrated to Canada if I worked at it, but I wasted all those years floating... Waiting for a scrappy bit of ground.
I have it now, but once I do what I want with the place and make a bit of money, I can see myself jacking it in and moving.
I'll come meet you at the port at Stranraer if you want, I can get you work around here, or I can even give you the address of my friend in Canada.
Hell you can even take on my wee flock of Hebridean sheep if you want!
ridger
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Problem is, he has to make up his mind that he wants to change his situation. or it will be the same in 5 years time. iv posted this a few times now. and don't use illness as an excuse, iv enough medical problems of my own but I'm a warrior
I appreciate all the comments and offers but I'm struggling to put in words just how hard it is for me to even go to shop up road or go to farm shop to get something. For those that haven't experienced it and go and do those things without a second though but for me I can't do those things without preparing myself. Iv tried the parttime job route and I'm more than happy I tried and was able to do it and help them out but made me realise as much as I want it and as much as people tell me that it's what's needed in my case it still doesn't help the fact of me being up half the night feeling sick at the thought of going there. I know people have to do jobs they aren't happy with regularly but in my case I loved the jobs it was the fact of being there was the trouble
ridger
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Were you afraid of sleeping in or what? if your working with the right people it's good Crack
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I think if you read his posts it sounds as if he's suffering from some fear/depression issues, best not to be too gung ho with your reply's.
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What is it you worry about then?
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Honestly Will if you dont want to leave home u need some social interaction and to get away from the farm for a little bit. I was bullied at school I sorted it out but it knocked my confidence badly. When i left school I found the farm as was my only safe sanctury. I was very nervous in social situations but i forced myself to join Young Farmers it took me years to be confident under the surface. Yfc helped me with that, brilliant organisation. I couldnt praise it highly enough. Now anyone who knows me now knows i never shut up and iv made many friends for life. I know your condition is way worse than anything I had to face but I sort of know where your coming from. Uv got to interact with people your own age and that share the same interests. Hell there may even be someone in your local yfc that likes them bloody wolly things and you can talk about them. Uv just got to stick at it and hopefully your confidence will improve.
Trying to explain it in words it doesn't come across as bad. That what makes it worse. New surroundings. Even old surroundings in the wrong frame of mind. Worry about panicking in public and being sick. Also even little worries for most people turn into big worries for me. Traveling in car more than 10 mins away takes a lot of time before I actually can do it. I like routine at home and if iv jobs planned for certain days and they don't get done it annoys me. I know nothing bad will happen wen they aren't done on that day but that doesn't help me stop. Those just a few examples
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Have you ever been sick while out and about?
Yes quite a few times
IH 684
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Reading through the thread it seems a lot of little things have added up and now have become one big mess. When something positive happens like when the sunshines or a decent lamb is born it cheers you up. My suggestion is to achieve a small goal a day which you can look back on the next day/week and think that was a good job done. For example. Clean a shed out, next day fix that bit of fence which looks a mess, the next day clean the pickup out, the next day sort your room out etc etc. What this will do after a few weeks will give you a boost then you will think Iam getting on top of jobs, I will have a chill out day today, I might have a mooch down to the shop, or call in on a neighbour for a chat, this will then give you another boost to do other jobs which needed doing and the cycle will repeat you will eventually not think and just crack on with nipping out and get talking to others which will lead onto nights in the pub trips away. Life is about goals the mind needs to be kept active small goals lead to bigger goals.
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I only ask as I had a stage where I couldn't sit at the table to eat or go out to eat withought feeling i would be sick like a horrible nervous belly kind of feeling still happens now and then for no reason that I can see just kind of wind myself up and worry, but the more I made the conscious effort to push the feelings aside the easier it got
I try to get out to few friends at night but haven't been for while with 1 thing or another but going to try to arrange it for a night at start of week again. I leave and help a friend on there farm which I enjoy as it's not for that long at a time and gets me out. I also help him for the silage and have arranged it now that help when need extra tractor and get paid couple times through out summer
Old Boar
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I feel I must step in here - sorry Will!
Will has an illness. I am not going into any details, but just believe me. Most of your replies have been sensitive and helpful, but some not so much and that is because you do not know Will.
Would you just say to an agoraphobic "just go outside, you would feel better" or to someone who has a fear of hights, "go and stand on the cliffs at Dover", or to someone who is depressed "pull yourself together".
It is the same sort of thing - just as someone who has agoraphobia would love to go out and about, they just cannot, and pushing them to do so would be cruel, and in fact, a backward step.
I admire Will hugely - he has tried his best to move forward with his sheep, and they are a credit to him. He could just sit around and do nothing, but he tries every single day to make a success of the day, which is more than some of us can say. He is held back by circumstances beyond his control, but still tries to move forward.
Just ponder for a moment. We all have things we fear, hate, distrust. Fighting every single day against that takes courage and strength.
Most of you have been brilliant with your replies and I know we all want to help. Just bear the parameters in mind.
Hug to Will.
Will has an illness. I am not going into any details, but just believe me. Most of your replies have been sensitive and helpful, but some not so much and that is because you do not know Will.
Would you just say to an agoraphobic "just go outside, you would feel better" or to someone who has a fear of hights, "go and stand on the cliffs at Dover", or to someone who is depressed "pull yourself together".
It is the same sort of thing - just as someone who has agoraphobia would love to go out and about, they just cannot, and pushing them to do so would be cruel, and in fact, a backward step.
I admire Will hugely - he has tried his best to move forward with his sheep, and they are a credit to him. He could just sit around and do nothing, but he tries every single day to make a success of the day, which is more than some of us can say. He is held back by circumstances beyond his control, but still tries to move forward.
Just ponder for a moment. We all have things we fear, hate, distrust. Fighting every single day against that takes courage and strength.
Most of you have been brilliant with your replies and I know we all want to help. Just bear the parameters in mind.
Hug to Will.