So I asked the day everything crashed did the situation escalate beyond where either of us wanted it to
I asked if there was anything I had said or not said that would make difference and I asked if she felt anything for me at all
What sort of replies did you get?
No was pretty much the answer to all of them. She said she had tried to find something anything but their just nothing. She said she doesn't hate me but there's just nothing.
I asked what's next are we done she nodded her head and with that 21 years is ended without a tear
Usual tff solution is to boff her sister!
If it IS beyond repair then an amicable separation is a very good outcome that few achieve. At least it sounds like she'd be up for that.No was pretty much the answer to all of them. She said she had tried to find something anything but their just nothing. She said she doesn't hate me but there's just nothing.
I asked what's next are we done she nodded her head and with that 21 years is ended without a tear
Seconded.Digger,
Have you tried any joint counselling? I have heard tell that counselling can often help folk break out of the continuous roundabout of bickering and blame and come to a better understanding of each other's way of seeing the ongoing situation. Never tried it our selves, so can't really comment it.
If it helps Digger, you can be pretty sure there will have been tears but you haven't been allowed to see them. If she is calmly and firmly telling you that it's definitely over, she has had a good while to come to terms with that decision and has most likely been thinking about it and chewing it over for quite a while, but pretending to you that everything is okay so as not to be forced into coming clean before she is as certain as she can be.No was pretty much the answer to all of them. She said she had tried to find something anything but their just nothing. She said she doesn't hate me but there's just nothing.
I asked what's next are we done she nodded her head and with that 21 years is ended without a tear
It's 16 years since my first partner dumped me, not to put too a fine a point on it. It was the first time I knew what a broken heart felt like, and it really was like being ill. I hadn't realised until that time what a broken heart was. I had only known my partner for three years and it was bad enough. Stings like hell at the time. I'd like to say you will soon be over it, but that would be a lie. It will take time, but things will improve gradually. It's not necessarily anybody's fault as such but just one of those horrible things that happens as circumstances and expectations change. I don't and never will blame my ex partner. We just arrived at mismatch. Wounds heal with time but there will always be a pull on the heart strings at certain memories.Heartache is heartache no matter what age you are and it's something you never get use to.
I'm impressed you went for a walk to talk things over as walking side-by-side is much less confrontational than face-to-face across the kitchen table. I've said from the start that Brexit would be a much smoother process if the negotiators all got their muddy boots and wellies on and go for a walk together.
Get a bit like that at times chae ,@Farmer Roy
In my opinion constant heat and sun can be as mentally wearing as rain and lack of sun.
Think I'm over the hill now but these past few weeks not been good with shortening days and colder temperatures.
I know a lot of you have been busy drilling, lifting tatties etc. But my mind and body misses the constant drive that's required from spring through till end of harvest.
Autumns kind of a comedown. Lack of adrenaline and living on the edge normally brings illness in my case.