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My sentiments exactly, the RIGHT thing to do is address this, but I worry about the repercussions...hence 'is it right'?I think every family has an issue everybody avoids, my family is certainly no different.
Over the last few years we have dealt with al the easier issues and are now left with the big one. Only one way to do it and just confront it head on in my opinion.
Very easy to do but you 100% needs the backing of the rest of the family or it won't work.
If nothing else it sounds like you need to sort it out for your own sanity. We have put up with some crap over the years and in hindsight it was never the right thing to have done. Dealing with it properly has always been the right thing to do.
Try looking in from the outside and do what you think is right, never be unkind though. I always try to do the right thing but always be able to live with myself afterwards.
This was started 2 generations back, they admitted they got it wrong and never though this infantile nonsense would come out in a grown man, but it was too late. The next generation grew up 'helping' a,d the emotional pressure was too much for it to be dealt with, then me, and it's now affecting my kids. All because 1 individual had MAJOR psychological issues not dealt with a long toime ago and is now used to living in a fantasy world. The daft thing is, he's now angry because his fantasy world isn't fantastic enough. Insane,
I try to teach my kids that you should do the RIGHT thing, even when it's the hardest option, and that's how I usually go about things. Due to the family history though this is a real corker. My Mrs says "You (me) can't fix everything for everybody", and I know she's right, but this is going to be a tough fall out, even if the 'deluded' one does bring it on himself. No way to fix it without someone getting hurt, which \i suppose is why I asked on here.
Your sentiments are bang on, thanks very much.