Red Fred
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- Hants/Dorset border
The comparison between old folks care and animal care is interesting, and over the last year of mum's life, I often heard the expression "We wouldn't be allowed to keep our animals like this!" and it did get us thinking.
In mum's case, she went into hospital a year ago and they accepted that there was nothing further medically they could do.Putting it coldly, had she been a cow, she would have been collected a couple of years ago, but humans are different and must be kept going as long as practically possible.
This leads (or seemed to in mum's case) to a bit of a crunch at the end a few weeks ago.
After being sent home with no further help possible to pass away in her bed in the front room, she actually kept going for nearly a year through her own resilience and in the end they just kept her as comfortable as possible with morphine and left her to it. She couldn't be made to eat or drink, so she effectively was left to fade away over a couple of final days.
I don't have any criticism of the medics, but it brought home the different ways we treat people and animals.
I must confess that on her last night, the nurses looked in and left, I came in from a walk and saw she wasn't moving, but hoped she was just asleep. After 10 minutes, she really wasn't moving and was cold to the touch. At this point, I guess I should have phoned the emergency doctor, but I thought "He'll be hours anyway, so mum would have wanted me to give the animals their supper" so I did, and called the doctor after I got home again 15 minutes later. As it was he didn't arrive until 3am so it wouldn't have made any difference anyway but I was certain she was gone and there was nothing more I could have done.
In mum's case, she went into hospital a year ago and they accepted that there was nothing further medically they could do.Putting it coldly, had she been a cow, she would have been collected a couple of years ago, but humans are different and must be kept going as long as practically possible.
This leads (or seemed to in mum's case) to a bit of a crunch at the end a few weeks ago.
After being sent home with no further help possible to pass away in her bed in the front room, she actually kept going for nearly a year through her own resilience and in the end they just kept her as comfortable as possible with morphine and left her to it. She couldn't be made to eat or drink, so she effectively was left to fade away over a couple of final days.
I don't have any criticism of the medics, but it brought home the different ways we treat people and animals.
I must confess that on her last night, the nurses looked in and left, I came in from a walk and saw she wasn't moving, but hoped she was just asleep. After 10 minutes, she really wasn't moving and was cold to the touch. At this point, I guess I should have phoned the emergency doctor, but I thought "He'll be hours anyway, so mum would have wanted me to give the animals their supper" so I did, and called the doctor after I got home again 15 minutes later. As it was he didn't arrive until 3am so it wouldn't have made any difference anyway but I was certain she was gone and there was nothing more I could have done.